I have known my ‘friend’ since 1987 and have had some illness of late. I hadn’t heard from my ‘friend’ in that space of time and when I, yes I, rang HER, she said, “I thought I’d wait until you were better before I rang to see how you were”. What am I to think of this? I never see or hear from her when I’m going through a bad patch.
2006-10-12 00:55:14 · 10 answers · asked by Say It Like You Mean It 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Girl that is not a true friend Coz really friends are always there for each other no matter what why should she wait for you to cal and furthermore say that she was waiting for you to get better to call leave her the hell alone go on with your life girl.
2006-10-12 01:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by zinja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer, if you look into your heart. A true friend sticks with you through everything, the good and bad. And you do the same for her/him. It's true that sometimes it is right to give a friend some space. Usually though, a friend would discuss that with you instead of making assumptions about what is right or wrong for you.
Are you always there for your friend? I would be a little wary and perhaps talk to her. Explain how it made you feel. If, as I think you were suggesting, that your illness was more to do with the head than the body, then you really must talk to her properly. A time like that is when you need your friends the most.
2006-10-12 08:31:11 · answer #2 · answered by twinkletoestheballerina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your friend is unnerved by your illness. my sister had a friend who was seriously injured in a car crash and had to spend 5 months in hospital. My sister has such a fear of hospitals she was unable to bring herself to go and visit her friend while in hospital, although she did send gifts and cards.
Some people just dont know how to react when someone they know becomes ill and they find the beat way to deal with this is to seperate themselves from that person. Its down to you to decide if this was the way your friend feeling or if she reallly wasjust not bothered with you or your illness.
I hope you are over your illnes and live a long and happy life.
2006-10-12 09:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by ollieoops 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know people like that: my sister had ME for 2 years and lots of her so-called friends just left her to cope by herself. It's up to you whether you just accept she is a fairweather friend and don't rely on her, or to finish the friendship (if you do this it may help for you to explain to her why you're doing it as it would make you feel better and maybe even get her to reassess her attitude).
2006-10-12 08:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by Nikita21 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a sad fact of life, but sometimes friends DO drift apart. And that sounds what has happened to you and your "friend". Just thank the universe for the lessons she taught you about being a friend, and gravitate towards people who can be friends. Hope you feel better...
2006-10-12 08:19:36 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Girl, ur friend is not really a friend. if she was a tru friend she would call u everyday to check up on u, not just to totally ignore u . if u really want 2 keep her as ur friend, just ask her the truth. But if she doesnt want to call u when ur sick, the shes doing somrthing behind ur back. Trust me, this has happened to me before.
2006-10-12 08:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by sparklediva121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U call that a friend? friends a there for u through bad and good times, look around they are good people out there to give you support when you need it
2006-10-12 08:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by Maphondo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your friend the direct question face to face. You should be able to guage from the body language.
2006-10-12 08:05:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are completely healthy by now, run as fast you can in the opposite direction till you bump into a human being.
2006-10-12 07:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by fleur 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accept that not everyone places friendship on the same level.
at least, you have seen her as she is.
hope you have recovered.
2006-10-12 07:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by ash 7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋