I got pregnant twice before and sadly I had a termination. I felt I was not ready and I was not in the right position in life to bring a child into the world.
But now I am trying, I have tried for a few months but nothing is happening, I am not on the pill either :( is it a sign that I am no longer fit to be a mother by God and that I dont deserve any?
2006-10-12 00:48:34 · 23 answers · asked by the_questioner 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
a friend said this to me a while ago, whats meant for you wont go by you! i hope this helps
2006-10-12 07:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it does not. I had a termination 9 years ago and am now married, over 35 and been trying for 8 months now without success. I was like you and kept thinking the same thing but its not true. You had a termination which is never easy for valid reasons and that baby just wasnt meant to be. Ive read the best way to conceive is to have sex every 3 days so that you increase your chances of getting your ovulation dates. but it can take some women 1 to 2 years to get pregnant. Keep your chin up and I wish you all the best.
2006-10-12 18:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by shoefairy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the exact same position as you hun. I had a termination when I was 19. (10 yrs ago). Since then i used contracption religiously and was scared to death of getting pregnant again.
I'm now happily married and we've been trying for the past couple of months. I sometimes worry that I had my chance.
All the experts say that there is nothing to worry about unless you have been trying for over a year with no success.
It's early days yet for you so just don't stress. You know that you are able to conceive as you have done in the past.
Have fun trying and take it easy hun, it will happen. x
2006-10-13 10:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by trixi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely not, you did the right thing if you felt you were not in the right position before and it was a brave decision to take.
I have been trying for a few months myself, sadly these things just take time. You only have about 2 days every month when you are really fertile and so it relies on you having sex around this time. There is a website called 'Fertility Friend' and if you subscribe they send you some really informative emails about it all, might be worth checking out. Generallly, you ovulate 12 - 16 days before you are due on (might help you work it out if ur periods are regular). - Hope you are taking Folic acid supplements too?
Keep trying, it will happen for you, but please don't feel it is anything to do with what happened before, it is just life and sometimes we have to do things that we feel really sad about, but I know what you did was for the best.
Good luck, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. xxx
2006-10-14 19:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost don't be too hard on yourself. you had your reasons for terminating your pregnancy and you should,nt go on punishing yourself for this. I'm sure that it was,nt a decision that you made lightly and sometimes decisions like those can be the bravest thing you can do. im pretty sure that you would make a fantastic mummy now that the times right for you. if your really worried about conceiving naturally go and talk to your GP who will be able give you some good solid advice and also maybe put you in touch with a councillor who will be able to help you come to terms with your past. all you can do for the time been is keep on trying which is a pleasure in its self anyway and just relax and im sure you,ll find that things will come together naturally. good luck to you matey x
2006-10-16 06:12:06 · answer #5 · answered by MARC T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're perfectly normal. Every woman trying to conceive starts to doubt themselves a bit and your mind starts to race as to why you might not be pregnant yet. You did nothing wrong having 2 terminations. It was your decision and nobody elses. It's such a personal thing that I don't think anybody should make judgement and I don't think you are experiencing any sort of God sent fall out from your decisions either. Relax and try not to think about getting preggers and I bet you'll get there soon. Good luck.
2006-10-12 12:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The studies right now are conflicting on whether or not mulitple abortions can cause fertility issues. Some say yes, others say no.
It takes time to get pregnant. You also have to be educated on how your cycles work and how to recognize fertility signs.
Make sure you are truly in a position to have a child before getting pregnant this time.
2006-10-12 08:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Cassandra K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone already said, there are conflicting studies about the effects of multiple abortions on one's fertility, so it's hard to say if your previous abortions are indeed impacting your ability to get pregnant now or not. Personally, I don't think so.
If you felt you weren't ready, that is your own personal choice. I just hope that you now know you're 100% ready this time - I would hate to see you get pregnant, then become unsure, and have another abortion. So please think it over alot before getting pregnant. Maybe these months have been to give you thinking time, use them wisely. Good luck to you.
2006-10-12 09:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will happen for you, but i will say when God is ready for you to have this child, you will have it. Until then don't stress over it, let nature take its course. I know some women get pregnant just by breathing on them but don't think about them because when the time is right he will bless you. Good Luck~~~Oh yeah God always forgive his children so don't think he is punishing you, if you ask for forgiveness he will do just that.
2006-10-12 09:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by msleya2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are fit to be a mother, how long ago was your abortion perhaps your body is still healing? Try not to give up hope, it will happen eventually these things sometimes take time. If it hasn't happened in around 12 months go see your doctor who could then refer you to a specialist. Good-luck
2006-10-12 07:54:16 · answer #10 · answered by jam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be stupid! It takes any "normal" woman, a long time to fall pregnant. Relax, as soon as you do this you will feel so much better. Stress is one of the biggest things that stop people getting pregnant. Just let nature take it's course, and have fun trying. The best of luck xx.
2006-10-12 07:54:06 · answer #11 · answered by siany warny 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋