the answers are nasty and jaded and narrow minded.....cant u guys put ur feet in these peoples shoes and realise that emotions are not always perfect.. for example what is love how does it happen and why do we let it?? All sorts of reasons...security.. insecurity..self esteem..and baggage... if u guys had any real life experiences im sure the holy then thou answers would be a lil different.
2006-10-12 00:34:49 · 18 answers · asked by cleo_alter_ego 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is not in real life, just that this site is FULL of religious bigots, prudes, puritans and fat ugly bitter individuals who are sh!tting themselves that their partners will do it...if they have one. These are not indicative of the real world that is for sure. Happy contented and satified men and women do not need too...but you can see why their other halves would xxx Enjoy your life xxxxxx
2006-10-12 00:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
You know what your problem is? You can't understand that some people don't have BAD experiences like you, and they ARE better, because cheating IS bad.
You said;
"if u guys had any real life experiences im sure the holy then thou answers would be a lil different."
Meaning that everyone who have real life experiences must have cheated???
The backwards thing these days, is that no one wants to take advice from those who have good experiences... No, they choose to listen to people who have plenty of bad experiences instead.
I would rather take advice from a faithful person than a cheater ANYTIME! And they would be BETTER people in my opinion!
Everyone has the right to judge and they always will, just how it is. Deal with it!
2006-10-12 08:00:37 · answer #2 · answered by Magnuna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Every person in different, as is every relationship. How we handle ourselves sometimes is lead by pure emotion and not common sense. Everyone knows that cheating is wrong, but yet so many do it. Not that they are looking to hurt someone else, most times it just happens (when caught). You should never judge someone even if you have walked in their shoes, because their shoes still won't fit your feet. But everyone has to understand that on a public forum such as this, you are going to get EVERYONES personal feelings on the matter even though that person has no idea what is truly going on in your life.
2006-10-12 08:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dI am agreeing with you about everything you said for two reasons....the first being that the Bible was a way of someones life and weather you believe or not does not make real life any easier and the Bible i s not a rule book it is ideas......And second I am in a situation where Adultery is being committed .I am the other women to a guy that is married we have been together for 2 months and known each other for 9. I know his wife and they are in the process of A divorce but legally it is still adultery....I do not need anybody to preach at me about my life..I did not ask to fall in love with a married man...it happened before I even knew he was married...so I give you all the thanks in the world for stopping ans trying to put yourself in others shoes and not judging like you our god but more like answering as a friend with advice no matter the subject.
2006-10-12 07:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you just trying to explain away your "real-life experiences? (i.e your cheating) The reasons the answers are "nasty and jaded and narrow minded" is because adultery is wrong. Period, end of story. There is never an excuse. Ever. And before you try and throw it back in my face, saying I don't know what I'm talking about.....I do. I made the mistake of cheating on my ex-wife. I thought I was justified, and guess what, I was wrong. Notice, I said EX-wife. She never fully forgave me for it, and I can't blame her. We had our issues, some petty, some serious, but she didn't deserve what I did.
2006-10-12 07:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by devlish_blu 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sorry girlfriend, there is never a reason to commit adultery. I don't care how much you say you are in love, and the other person says they love you, get out of your present relationship, become single, date, engage, and then marry if you choose to. Do not bring someone into a relationship that is already a mess. So there is never a good reason to cheat. The person you married has everything you need. If they didn't have all you need and you still married them, well tough, you knew what you were getting into!
2006-10-12 07:45:47 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
probably because people who commit adultery are being deceitful to their long term partner.
once because they haven't formally set aside the main relationship before commencing another, and twice because the energy they put into getting pleasure from infidelity rightfully should have been used towards repairing the problem in their marriage.
is that clear enough?
if your marriage becomes unworkable, or even if you simply stop believing in the institution of marriage, the first thing you should do is inform your partner....to allow that person to exit the situation with their dignity intact....because that's how you would expect to be treated.
is that also clear enough?
2006-10-12 07:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am very devoted to God but I am not a bigot. I have been in some tough spots in my life and I have done it to myself. Jesus said to the women caught in adultery go and sin no more. So when I answer a question about adultery I try to follow His example. And people want to think your sin is bigger than ther own but to God sin is sin.
2006-10-12 07:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by nicky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have enough life experience to know that adultery is never the answer. At least be honest with the person you supposedly "love" and tell them you want out before you start another relationship. I've been in their shoes and learned a hard life lesson.
2006-10-12 07:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I will admit to cheating on lovers in the past. However, that does not make it right and if I sound holier than thou its because I saw how destructive and hurtful that behavior is first hand. Cheating is a stupid, selfish and inexcusable act and there will be no pity or "there there, poor baby you cheated on your spouse" comments from me.I will not do it again.
Just because I have walked in those shoes in the past does not excuse the fact that its wrong. Period.
2006-10-12 07:41:46 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have to agree with your statements too. I won't say that what you said is wrong.
But,I'd also like to say that (to those who are openly talking about their problem/s in regards to this subject) - As long as you are posting up your problem publicly for discussion, you will have to be ready to receive opinions from all angles.
Only if you are good enough to pick up the correct and applicable advices and information from all these opinions given to you, if not, I'd advise you go face-to-face with a professional counsellor.
Cheers!
2006-10-12 07:49:32 · answer #11 · answered by Geo C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋