I don't think she abuses him in any way, however her drunken state around him is some what disturbing.Hes about 13, and is the most pleasent child ever.Do i intervene??? How about telling him that he can come round to mine any time he feels like, especially when his mums off on one??? hellllp.
2006-10-12 00:33:37 · 12 answers · asked by Lady G 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can report anonymously to the Division of Family Services in your area. I would do that as it would help the child, yet protect yourself from repercussions. Alcoholics can be pretty unpredictable.
2006-10-12 00:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by Barbara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am an adult child of an alcoholic. You need to intervene. I know how hard it is, I had to do it with my own sister even though she never abused her children. Call social services, it will help the child's mother also. Right now drinking is the most important thing to her and it should be her child. Her child must feel that. He has to, I did as a child. I realize that now anyway. Children need more than an alcoholic parent can give them. She can get help and oh my things would be great and she would thank you for intervening.
2006-10-12 00:40:54 · answer #2 · answered by Chewy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can intervine, contact social services in your area and explain to them what is happening and that they need to look into the situation and that you are more than willing to help in any way. they will probably put the child with family members and order the mother to a treatment program. you can also tell them that you are willing to take the boy in if he has no other family or they are also unfit. it will only be a temporary stay for the child most likely and when the mother passes the program will be monitored regularly and then will probably be given a chance to get her son back and so on if she relapses he will then probably go to foster care and for her more treatment and given visitation rights. if you wish to become eligible for foster parenting program to help the boy if it comes to this for him --contact social services to find out how to apply and go on from there. the process isn't that hard and they work with you. I know i was a foster child. i was terrified at first, but i am so thankful for it today to have been given a better chance in life and actually have friends and experience my teenage yrs. i am 30 now and have 3 kids. i love my life and my family . i started to rebel against my family before going to foster care,, but they helped me to become a better person and learn there is happiness ir someone shows it to you and teaches you how to gain it the right way. DON'T GIVE UP HELP HIM --AND TRY TO HELP THE MOTHER -it is a disease, but it can be helped
2006-10-12 02:11:37 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like his mom needs help. Realizing that you are in a position that is uncomfortable I would suggest you call child protective services and just ask if you can have someone check into past complaints or to have them look into the situation.
I too would allow the boy to come over when his mom is off on a drinking binge. Sounds sad.
2006-10-12 00:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by sideways 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crying and throwing a tantrum is unusual element for an 11 365 days old boy to do in many cases. do you comprehend him, or in basic terms the parrents? ought to he have autism? you may call toddler protecting centers, yet you have not any information that the mothers and dads are doing something incorrect, so that's going to in fact be a wasted telephone call. save a watch on it, and look ahead to something unusual.
2016-10-16 02:43:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite him over for cookies, milk, etc....and just talk.
He's old enough to know so you can be a little more open about it.
Try talking to the mom when sober that you are worried about the son and if she ever needs your help to call you.
She needs AA. Alcoholism is a disease, it takes a while to get over. My dad was one for years, 16 years sober now.
2006-10-12 00:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Miz_Kassandra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's scary. you might want to get to know them a little better and see if in spite of her alcoholism if she is taking care of him, not abusing, not neglecting. making him welcome if he needs a place to go sounds like a nice idea. luckily, it sounds like he is turning out quite well, and fortunately a 13year old can more or less take care of the basics for himself. get some food, get his homework done, etc. but it's good to have a nearby adult to keep an eye out and be there if necessary.
i think it's so wonderful when adults take responsibility for children in general. thank you and. .. good luck.
2006-10-12 00:39:02 · answer #7 · answered by leavemealonestalker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes definetly offer him a safe place to be when his mother drinks-thats all I ever looked for when my dad drank.I don't agree with turning her in unless there is physical abuse because worse things can happen to a kid in foster care then seeing his mom drunk.
2006-10-12 00:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by rcdc_wva. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he know hes got an escape by being able to go round to you then he will probably feel a lot better
2006-10-12 00:36:25 · answer #9 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know you are there for him... If the mom does anything call the police and tell them she is an unfit mother and they will find a better place for him.
2006-10-12 00:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by Southie9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋