I think I am a jealous person, even if I don't show it, I sometimes hurt inside when somebody is more succesfull, have better partner, look nicer, etc. Why is that? Do you feel the same? Honest answers, please.
2006-10-12 00:33:24 · 21 answers · asked by tulip 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know jealousy very well as an older brother. My dad apparently liked girls better. He took a handful of photos of me, but loads and loads of pictures of my sister from infancy onward. She has higher self-esteem and motivation than I do, has a master's degree, traveled the world, and has been married for over 7 years - longer than our parents. I have never even been in a relationship. We deal with the world very differently. But actually, I don't think my sister is any happier than I am. Although married, she and spouse stay in separate rooms and has thought of adopting instead of having her own children because of society being what it is. We also share the same emotionally crippled father. Please regard all of your chidren equally.
2006-10-12 01:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by TarKettle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone feels jealous some times. We would all like to have the money to travel the world, looking great with a beutiful partner. Its how you deal with these feelings that matters. You can either let them eat at you or use them as inspiration! If some one is more successful than you then work harder to achieve what you want. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder you may think somebody looks better than you and they may feel the same about you. The better partner thing will stop when you find the Mr Right!
2006-10-12 00:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, because everything they have that I don't, I have something else that tehy don't, and I've been in a position of envy from all my friends, and I would have rather been without it so I wouldn't stand out, or be a figure of jealousy. If you have an amazing partner who people want that's going to hinder relations between you and those people. I'm just thankful for everything I have, and I'm genuinely happy with very few material things.
2006-10-12 00:43:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a partner then, only I feel the same myself at times because women I have met would rather be with someone who was more successful than me though it's best not to dwell on things too much, jealousy gets you nowhere.
2006-10-12 00:41:47 · answer #4 · answered by ucanseethejoin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all honesty - absolutely yes. I hate it, and try really hard to be happy about the good stuff, but I do get very envious of people I perceive to to be more attractive and successful than me. Sad really, but I think to some degree it is human nature, and I also work really hard not to show it.
2006-10-12 00:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by peggy*moo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What Is Jealousy?
Most People feel the same way, what matters is how you deal with it, this may take some soul searching, find out what makes you happy and try to feel happy for other peoples succeses, read this article, it may enlighten your plight a bit........
What is jealousy? According to Webster's dictionary, jealousy is described as "the state of being jealous." In order to unravel the circular reasoning we must discover what jealous means. Jealous is a resentful envy as of someone's success, achievements, advantages, etc.
Envy and jealousy are closely related, however a connotation difference exists. To quote Webster, "Envy denotes a longing to possess something awarded to or achieved by another. . .Jealousy, on the other hand, denotes a feeling of resentment that another has gained something that one more rightfully deserves. Jealousy also refers to anguish caused by fear of losing someone or something to a rival."
As you may have gathered from the above explanations, jealousy can be unhealthy or healthy, depending on your motivation. Unhealthy jealousy stems from fear, insecurity, deception, or covetousness. When you feel yourself acting out in jealousy, you need to examine the reason why you feel jealous.
Does a threat truly exist or is your perception off base? When you are battling insecurity, another person's achievements may come across to you as a threat. For example, a co-worker gets a raise for putting in extra hours on an important subject. Instead of being thrilled for him, you feel jealous even though you did not put the same hours in. You take his promotion as a personal reflection on you.
Next time you feel the angst of jealousy creep into your chest stop, think, and discern the source of jealousy. Once you discover why you are jealous you need to deal with the issue.
Jealousy is not all bad. A healthy jealousy needs to be developed in family relationships. This type of jealousy is a protective fight to maintain your relationships. Would you sit by while a person seduces your spouse or deceives your child? No, you would fight for them. You would do all you could to declare truth.
God demonstrates protective jealousy in a similar way. Exodus 34:14 gives insight to the nature of God: "Do not worship any other god, for the LORD, whose name is Jealous, is a jealous God." Our allegiance belongs to God alone. He is zealous to bring each human being into a rejuvenating relationship with Him. His protective jealousy is a wondrous comfort to those who believe and honor Christ as the ultimate authority.
I hope this helps, Jealousy can lead to many Psyclogical difficulties, if you are still confused, you may want to talk to a therapist (no insult intended), to un ravel what is causing you dissmay,don't let this fester,you could lose friends and generaly be unhappy, ask your self, "What are my achievements and what can I do to improve myself".
Good luck,and best wishes,Dino.
2006-10-12 01:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dino 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm rarely jealous and even on those rare occasions don't show it outwardly. Generally if something great happens to a friend of mine (they're better looking, the get a great promotion, their spouse takes them on surprise vacations, whatevever) I'm genuinely excited and happy for them.
2006-10-12 00:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a nice car, great job, great wife and kids... are you jealous?
Oh, I am also a complete tw@t and d!ckhead, are you still jealous? Focus on your own plus points not other peoples, you must have plenty of things that people are envious of you for. Maybe you family, friends, work, figure?
2006-10-12 03:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes .. its a basic human emotion if you care about the situation.
The key is how you deal with it .. making sure that you dont hurt anyone or hurt yourself in the process.
2006-10-12 00:42:34 · answer #9 · answered by enzuigiriuk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everybody feels it as a gut reaction sometimes. Then it is your job to turn it off. It shouldn't occupy your thoughts because other people are not your concern. Do you.
2006-10-12 01:44:54 · answer #10 · answered by black mamba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋