2006-10-11 23:23:03 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
come on i am also human with feelings,i know this is wrong please tell me how to overcome,i have to get married
2006-10-11 23:58:20 · update #1
Hi my heart goes out to you. Does the girl you love know your feelings? Have you got to get married? Has it gone too far? Is there anyone at all who you can trust to talk to. Please if theres anyway out of this please take that route! I am from complete different culture but do understand what you're going through, thats why Im asking you all these different questions. I really want to help if I can - ignore all the stupid replies from people who dont understand how much this means to you to have to submit this question. Please if you want to talk get in touch. Good Luck
2006-10-17 05:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by stuck 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why would you wanna marry someone whom your suppose to love as much or even more as you love the other? Thats a mistake in its self. I can tell you from personal experience, that theres a reason why your not with her, one day you will see it and understand, you have to learn to pay attention to life. Theres a reason for everything, It took me 20 years to get over a man i deeply loved, loved him more than my own life, but then i learned to except that only because i believe God had a better place for me to be and he did, the man im talking about is now a full blown alcaholic, the man im married to now, loves me more than anyone has ever loved me in my entire life. so see, thats what im trying to tell you, she's not where you were meant to be, theres something better for you, and you will see it one day if you open your eyes, but you have to pay attention to life. There really is a reason why things happen, but i dont think you need to marry this other person. Shes obiviously not the one for you, when you do find that right one, there will be no question, you'll know.
2006-10-12 01:41:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You yourself have said ''I know it's wrong'' in your question. This proves your heart doesn't approve you of such a thing. But I guess you have ignored that fact and carried on liking this particular woman. She is definitely not the one for you because if you really loved her you'd not feel your doing something wrong, even if she was married.
Secondly, don't marry some one else and play with their life unless you have gotten past this married woman. There's a lot of fish in the pond and eventually you'll get over all of this. God has given us humans a gift of forgetting you see!
2006-10-12 01:33:06 · answer #3 · answered by Shreyan 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get married until you get the other woman out of your head. It would be unfair to marry someone with another woman in your thoughts. If the married woman hasn't shown you she wants to be with you seeing how it's been 7 years and she's married to another this should tell you it's time you move on with your life. Don't waste your whole life on a dream when you could have a real relationship with someone who actually loves you back.
2006-10-12 00:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You really shouldn't destroy your fiancee's life by marrying her under false pretenses. It sounds as if you are experiencing family pressure to get married. If you get married, you will only resent your wife, yourself and your family. Compound that with adding children to the mix and you'll have a major disaster on your hands. Is this married "female" happy? Does she want to be with you? Can you talk to her and tell her how you feel? Maybe you could benefit by talking to a counselor...
2006-10-11 23:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by cheyennetomahawk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't destroy two Innocent lives. The Females husband and your future wife. Your love for a married woman is selfcentered and selfish therefore you are not ready to marry anyone.
2006-10-14 17:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by John T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing your doing the right thing moving on,she hasn't left her husband to be with you wake up and smell the coffee move on and don't cheat on your wife if you have any intentions on still seeing this woman then don't get married then another person does not get hurt when your heart is with someone else its so hard to move on maybe you should give yourself some time to get over her and then get in to a marriage when youll know when your going to be 100% to someone good luck.you got some thinking to do .
2006-10-11 23:51:10 · answer #7 · answered by nicole l 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never "have" to get married, that is a choice you made but in no way is it an obligation.
It is completely unfair of you to get married when you have feelings for another person.
You will ruin this relationship, I am telling you from experience.
CT
2006-10-12 00:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
So if you are in love with the married female why are you marrying one that you don't love? You need to find a woman that you love or convince the married one to get a divorce to marry you. Let me ask you this, driven by your demonstration of spelling incorrectness, does this married female know that you are in love with her and does she love you?
2006-10-11 23:27:13 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. PDQ 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're getting married and you love someone else???
You serious?
That's a terrible thing to do to your new wife. Stop the wedding or make up your mind who you want. If you want the wife then stop seeing/talking to the other woman.
2006-10-11 23:26:33 · answer #10 · answered by TonyB 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋