And you have a daughter together, do you think it is normal no to be upset about it?
2006-10-11 23:07:50 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry mistyped it
Is it normal NOT to be upset?
2006-10-11 23:11:46 · update #1
Yes if it was your decision and he was a ****. Don't feel bad, if you don't feel anything, you have obviously done the right thing!
2006-10-11 23:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by kerrykinsmalosevich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i suppose it depends on the situation and why you have seperated, also if you have fallen out of love with the person or were having a bad relationship towards the end then you may just feel as though you are better off out of it rather than being upset, everybody reacts differently to situations, so there is no right or wrong answer, you are not a bad person if you do not feel upset, nobody can tell you how you should feel, because we all feel differently to each other in different situations.
2006-10-11 23:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by sugarbabe180 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that she has known for ages that it wouldnt last and may have already done her mourning for this relationship before it ended.
She might also be holding herself together for the sake of the daughter, or she might be in denial.
She might just be over it. Some people are very head strong and think whats the point of being upset if you cant change it.
2006-10-11 23:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by michelle a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upset. But 'know' that its not going to be forever.
Be angry. But be 'aware' that it will subside. In 1 week, my be in 1 month, 1 year, 5 years? but it will go. and you will soon adjust with watever new life will offer u.
I suggest you go for some meditation classes - Art of Living etc.
Such practices really relieve you from this stress of a broken relationship. They help you evolve into a stronger person, one who doesn shatter , but takes every incident as a learning.
I am saying this out of experience.
May God bless you :)
2006-10-11 23:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Rain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it must be an absolutley terrible feeling, a friend of my mums husband of 20 yrs ,had spent 10 yrs of their marriage having an affair, they have two kids one 19 and one 17 and she felt that 20 years of her life was all a lie, the dad has bought the kids love by showering them with gifts and new cars and she was left with nothing he even kicked her out :( but a year on and shes doing great she has her own place and a new fella, this lady is proof you can carry on, and even thought three years is a long time at least it wasnt 20. ''i will survive''
2006-10-11 23:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by carlaroberts18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I think if you put closure on something that has caused you grief it is very normal not to have upset feelings. I just hope you guys keep peace for the child's sake.
2006-10-11 23:14:58 · answer #6 · answered by "karma" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends if you did it just to upset him or if you really wanted out of the relationship. if you can click your fingers and he comes runnin you wont be upset cuz ul know you can have him back straight away. u will always feel love for him as you have a child together and your daughter will always remind you of him and all the good times you have shared together.
2006-10-11 23:14:24 · answer #7 · answered by Rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. If you've fallen out of love with that person, I suppose it's hard to be devastated. If the guy was an ar*shole, then perhaps you were glad to see the back of him.
Not all break ups end in heart ache!
2006-10-11 23:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was with my fella for 6 years and he made it that hard for us to split up that i hated him. if the attraction and the doing things together have gone why would you be upset. for me it was a little strange at certain times him not being there but it doesn't take long for that to go. its like giving up smoking its weird not to have a *** after your dinner but after a couple of weeks the habit has gone ....
2006-10-12 01:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by smith15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is.
Your daughter just lost the family unit, you just lost the man you loved (Well, he might have been an ****, but still).
You've just lost all you've know.
Being upset is important to move on.
Just don't dwell on it for too long.
2006-10-11 23:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Gracee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you werent happy in the relationship then yeah I think its quite normal not to be upset!! xx
2006-10-11 23:12:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋