sometimes people feel like have a girlfriend in spite of married state, because the wifes expect mainly the family duties as a worker and thus don't fulfil our inherent and emotional needs, so if it's unacceptable to make a girlfriend who compensate our above needs?
2006-10-11 23:03:56 · 17 answers · asked by sepehr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For sake of society we can say anything, but fact is that satisfaction is not with what you have. History says, kings were having several wives. Even today, big deals are finalized in the midst of wine and women. Do you like to eat the same food every day ?? perhaps you feel some change. Do you wear the same cloths all the days?? of-course no. You will feel to go with fashion. Why not sex demand change. Why there are cases of diverse?? Why there are cases of rape and murder?? These all are the product of mind and desire.
2006-10-11 23:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are some African tribes that do this: When the married men have to travel 100's of miles to find work in urban areas, obviously then they live there, only returning to see their wives and children a few times every year. They send most of their money back home to their wives, and probably a few aunts and uncles and grandpa too. The wives WANT their husbands to have a girlfriend, because the girlfriends will cook and clean for them. This is what the wife would be doing if she was there. And yes, it sounds awfully subservient to some people, but some of the things that westernised people do, sounds pretty weird non western cultures too.
But it sounds to me as if you live at home,and you are more interested in making love than your wife is. I feel sorry for you, but cheating AIN'T an option, it will end in tears.
good luck.
2006-10-12 06:31:12 · answer #2 · answered by meucando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! it is not acceptable. If you feel that your wife is not fulfilling your emotional needs then you should discuss it with her and tell her that this makes you feel low and unhappy and she would consider your feelings. A married man can have girl friends for a platonic relationship but not girlfriends to fulfill thier 'inherent & emotional needs'. This is unacceptable.
2006-10-12 06:11:55 · answer #3 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the role of the wife to fulfil the husbands emotional and physical needs and if the husband does not take care of the physical, emotional, material and mental needs of his wife and family, he is not fulfilling his role as the head of the family. It is only when either sex fails to fulfil their designated role in the family arrangement that problems such an unfaithfulness of the mate, disloyalty and adultery come up and which causes distrust and unhappiness within the family circle. Girlfriend is definitely out of the picture my dear. This is where true love comes into the picture.
2006-10-12 06:16:34 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not a play affair. Why in the world will you use that lame excuse as a way of cheating on your wife. You put yourself in her shoes and see how it would be if she cheated on you. She is your wife, talk to her and reach a compromise. Don't expect her to do all the work. Give her a hand in some of the chores and above all, make her feel attractive.
At least you courted her before marriage so why don't you do those things you used to do pre-marriage to bring back that spark. Please don't cheat. It destroys homes and all the hard work you and your wife have invested in the marriage. Would you risk 5 minutes of pleasure for a lifetime of regret and pain?
2006-10-12 06:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's unacceptable. You know the answer to that question.
The golden rule is if you have to lie consistently to someone about what you're doing, it's wrong. Especially if that person is doing so much for you. I mean, come on: Your wife is raising your kids, holding your household together and is there when you come home from work and this is how you'd repay her? You've got to know that's wrong.
2006-10-12 06:07:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not acceptable to take a girlfriend whille you are married. If your wife doesn't want relations with you, ask her about it. Lack of sex is a symptom of another problem in your marriage. It could be something simple as her wanting more help with housework, cooking, and watching the children. Talk to her.
2006-10-12 06:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by robinallsup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No NO NO. You should talk to your wife and explain how you feel. Your wife may be feeling the same. Having another woman will only cause pain and heartbreak for your wife. If you love her then you would not cheat on her. If you don't love then leave her and let her meet someone who will love her the way she deserves.
2006-10-12 06:09:52 · answer #8 · answered by sickofthis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The girlfriend would be a home wrecker and a whore- and do you know that India has a very, very high AIDS rate?? Keep your pants on and love your wife- show your wife love and she will respond and make you happy! D
2006-10-12 06:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
Proverbs chapter 22 (TEV)
14 Adultery is a trap-it catches those with whom the Lord is angry.
Proverbs chapter 25 (TEV)
26 A good person who gives in to someone who is evil reminds you of a polluted spring or a poisoned well.
Hebrews chapter 13 (NLT)
4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
2006-10-12 06:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by bballchick4christ22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋