i'm a 33 year old single mum with a 16 year old daughter who's just trying to discover herself and who she is.. i went from being a daughter to a mother at 17 without learning about my life and who i was and why i was placed on this earth.. how can i found out who i am ?
2006-10-11 22:57:57 · 18 answers · asked by . 6 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
I find the answer in Jesus. Through Him I have peace and a reason for living. And in Him I know that I am a child of God. I hope and pray that you may be able to find that out too.
2006-10-12 01:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you learned something about life when you were 17.
Why you were placed on this earth? Because your father and mother copulated successfully. For the rest you're just a splendid accident in evolution.
Begin by accepting these fact.
Love your daughter and show that to her without being possessive, even in such a way that she can't in any way get that impression. If she lets you talk to her, take that opportunity as often as you can. Try to give her as much confidence as you can. And you will find out who you are at the same time.
2006-10-11 23:13:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going straight from one dependent relationship to another doesn't leave a lot of space for exploring yourself.
If you now have more time maybe you can start to try new things - new activities, classes, sports, whatever you fancy. Just sample them and see what you like. In that way you will start to see a bit of yourself separate from you-as-daughter, you-as-parent, you-as-guardian, you-as-carer etc.
With all due respect to all the people suggesting religions of various kinds you might wonder if that is not just another dependent relationship. Possibly satisfying, but possibly more appropriate for people who don't want to find out who they are. I'd suggest reading a bit about various philosophies and see what you appeals to you, what thoughts seem sensible.
If there is a reading circle or something of the kind in your area that is a great way of exploring yourself and coming into contact with lots of ideas and different people.
Or you could try expressing yourself in words - writing. It is amazing that sometimes when you start to write you say things you didn't really expect to say, and suddenly discover stuff about yourself that you never put into words before.
Personally I've been much inspired by Buddhist teaching, and one of the most liberating things the Buddha often said after discussing something with an enquirer was: 'now is the time for you to do as you think fit.'
2006-10-12 05:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For inner peace u have to learn to love yourself then others.Also you will find peace by helping others.I am not asking for huge welfare work or something like that but in ur daily life just be good to the peoples around u and also go to beach or some lonely place and spend time with ur own self that will develop some inner peace for u.
2006-10-11 23:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by pearl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Live your life as you wish your children would.
Becoming a mother so young didn't really make you "grow up faster" did it? You actually stunted your social, spiritual, and emotional growth. Now you are feeling like something is missing.
Visit a Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. It's not really a 'religion' but rather a community of friends. All are welcome redardless of background or faith. People encourage questioning and contributing. It might help to learn about multiple perspectives, and discover the dignity and worth in all people.
Look online for a Unitarian Universalist fellowship closest to you.
2006-10-12 05:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the answer to this is that you need to find some time for you. Time to sit and meditate, to listen to yourself and what it is that you want. to love yourself for who you are. We all have a reason for being on this earth and it is not always clear to us, this is only revealed in the course of time with patience and experience of life. I was a mum at 16, so i know where your coming from. My feeling is that you are a spiritual lady who needs a sense of direction. Meditate and learn to trust your instincts. If you are worried then always say a little pray or send out a thought for love and protection before meditating. Listen to the thoughts that you get in meditation. If you need any help you can e-mail me it is dd9233@yahoo.co.uk good luck
2006-10-11 23:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by Susie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well everything in life happens for a reason. Now your daughter is getting older, you will have more time for yourself and maybe do things in life that you want to and discover that way.
2006-10-11 23:06:25 · answer #7 · answered by Annie M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just be gentle and try to apprieciate daily beauty in all the things around you- and try to teach your children the same. Buddists have a proverb about apprieciating the beauty inall moments, whether itis stopping and feeling the sun or listening to birdsong - trying to savout moments in each day you would normally not heed. why does your inner peace have ot hurt others, anyway?
2006-10-11 23:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by rose_merrick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be a good role model for your daughter, and become a strong woman. Put yourself first for a change!! Those who really love you, will not be hurt by you trying to better yourself!! It's your turn. Good luck.
2006-10-11 23:08:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is the most important feeling in a person's life, and the most serious question one can ask, (who i was and why i was placed on this earth.. how can i found out who i am ?),
may be we can exchange a few e-mails discussing this,
my e-mail is:
latif_1950@yahoo.co.uk
2006-10-12 00:53:53 · answer #10 · answered by latif_1950 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋