i mean i luv my bf and all but lately i start to have a hollow feeling towards this guy. we barely have enough time for each other. he would come chill at my place almost everyday after work, but he'll be too tired to talk to me even. he would just fall asleep. i understand though cuz he works the whole day and school. when we do hang out on his days off, he would just go out with me to places he want. when i suggest places i want like da beach etc. he would not go. im not even tellin him to go to the mall w/ me. i notice he likes doin activities that dont require us to talk much like watching movies/videos at his house. when we hang out at each others house we just do our own thing mostly. weird and boring huh? i just feel like something's missing. he's not the type that would want to talk about probs because everything to him is fine. how do you know when to end a long-term relationship? i'm just confused i dont even know my pt. but anybody could just comment on it. thank you
2006-10-11 22:03:15 · 13 answers · asked by dorkydork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sorry this one is hard...I mean you say he wont talk...so he doesn't listen to your feelings I take...what can you do....I made a pack with my body...anything in my life that stresses it...i get rid of it....if he wont listen to what you want...and does what he wants...you are not a big part of his life...you are just there.....maybe take a break...tell him there are things you need to try,see,do,experience...and being with him is stopping you...you told us that....I like a partner that puts the boards on the roof of the truck and says" lets hit the slopes..".i like a man that grabs the fishing pole...and say..."lets go"...how about the one that says..."what ever you want today...it is..."There is alot to do...and I understand that he wroks all day and is tired...but he's tired because his body has gotten used to passing out at a certian time...trust me i know...mine fall out on the couch...asleep at 6:00 p.m. some times...but he works hard....then again..he knows we miss time together...so it's what ever I want to do....which is smart sometimes..he doesn't have to think as much....
2006-10-11 22:12:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been 5 years that you have been tolerating. Shouldnt have let it grown this far if you had known him and his character. So partially you do share the blame.
Give him a chance, talk to him saying your needs , you deserve some attention too. Try your best to make him understand.
That poor guy is working too hard and i can understand why you never wanted him to get more distracted. But within yourself you feel that u deserve more.
Please tell him everything that you feel, without talking to him you dont give him and urself a chance.
If things arent working out well either, take some time off, try not spending too much time with him, maybe then you and him would know how much you guys need each other or vice versa.
2006-10-11 22:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try talking but I think you have a problem. The first rush of excitement goes from a relationship quite quickly and what is left is the real situation of how you feel about each other. The first words of your question said it all "I mean I love my bf and all BUT" This is after five and a half years so think how you are going to feel in another five and a half - is it worth it? It is so easy for a relationship to degenerate into nothing more than a comfortable habit, and habits are harder to break the longer you have them. It is not for me to tell anyone what to do (I have made all the mistakes) all I will say is think hard as to where you want your life to go in the future.
2006-10-11 22:20:42 · answer #3 · answered by U.K.Export 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join a group without him and start making friends of both sexes. This will let you know if you are just in a slow period or if it is time to move on.
My ex husband was a slug. He thought that you got married and then you were 'set' and didn't have to do anything more after that. Women are more like '50 First Dates' and it is necessary to win us over again and again as we change and grow over time.
Good luck in whatever you do!
2006-10-11 22:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy is really not the guy for you. Unless you can spice things up then I'm afraid it's time to move on and find a more adventerous boyfriend who likes doing the things you like. However please be aware that exciting guys will not make you feel as secure or be as reliable as "boring" guys. Life should be an adventure.
2006-10-11 22:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm i can understand him being tired all the time , cause thats the way i am and i don't want to do so much with my bf at times, cause i just want to hang at home and do the things at home that i rarely get to do.. It's not so weird,, as long as you 2 are together , he gets the shits and expects me to sleep to fit in with him so i jack up..lol maybe u need to sit down and explain to him whats really wrong in simple terms cause men are a bit thick!! Spell it out loud what you need from him, if he;s willing work at it, if he's not say bye bye
2006-10-11 22:12:01 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what both of you lack is communication. Try talking to him share with him your feeling on how you feel lately. 5.5.yrs relationship is a long time. That is why both of you are taking each other for granted. Communication is the key to a successful relationship.
2006-10-11 22:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Genny K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's terrible. I've always talked in my past relationships with girls.
Two humans in a relationship not talking to each other is a sad way to spend the rest of their lives.
Leave and find happiness!
2006-10-11 22:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by entranced82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r fool.he comes to relax and he feel secure and affection with u
he thinks he can forget all problems with u and beaches n all are not love
what if takes to beach and do everything with u and then say bye
he cools down near u
thats all and ask if I am wrong
and give me best answer as I havent gor any single from yahoo answers
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2006-10-11 22:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by dentist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life bcomes routine der after 5.5yrs ur thinkg to end and start anew?do u think aft 5.5 yr later ur new relationshp wud be bettr.all round the world wedding turn out like urs (bt urnt yet married)maybe dats wat missing u dont feel committed to each other.Look der,for love to remain alive u have to Nurture it otherwise it dies (its same as a plant dr,ignore if for long it will surely die)so wake up and start watering ur relationship,if necessary add fertilizers etc to maintain its well-being. 5.5yrs is long way dr dont waste ur life.
2006-10-11 23:30:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋