Six months ago, my hubby and I decided to adopted a very beautiful baby girl. Well, since we decided to go down the adoption path we have been through so many hoops and the case seems to be going on forever. We are on our second attorny and we feel like we are never informed about aything we have to find out thru family and friends. This was the same problem with our first lawyer. We are stationed in Germany and the adoption is taking place in Kansas. We have the baby girl with us. Our first hang up was the father, but the guy turned out not to be the father, so now the baby's paternal grandmother wants to fight the adoption. Can she do that? Someone please give me a little pieces of sainty back and help me with this question. I LOVE my baby girl and I would just die if they took her from me.
2006-10-11 22:01:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
In most cases family members are considered first. If the paternal grandmother just found out about her grand-daughter then things may have to start from the beginning.
Have you tried talkng to the grandmother. Most grandparents just want to be grandparents. Maybe you could agree that she would remain in the child's life. Sometimes it takes a little comprimise.
2006-10-11 22:06:02 · answer #1 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This will depend on the state laws of Kansas, about which I know very little. However, in most states, the courts will consider "the best interests of the child." It sounds like the baby has been with you for a long time and, thus, has bonded with you, etc. This will weigh heavily in the court's decision. Additionally, if the baby's biological parents want you to have the child--as opposed to the child's grandparents--then in most states this is determinative. The wishes of the parents will always trump the wishes of the grandparents. You definitely need a lawyer. There's a ton out there so find one you're comfortable working with and start asking him/her about your concerns. Good luck.
2006-10-12 03:29:10 · answer #2 · answered by Sara D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rights for all parties will be determined by the federal and state laws having jurisdiction of the adoption proceeding. From your text, it suggests the matter is still pending before the court. The judge will hear evidence from all parties that are allowed to argue in the matter, before deciding what the law requires and what is in the best interest of the child. While the process is frustrating, it will get resolved eventually.
If you have questions about your attorney, you can always consult with a third attorney to review the work done in the case so far. Talk with your local pediatricians for reccomendations of adoption lawyers, or call you local bar and ask them which lawyers have given CLE (Continung Legal education) on adoptions lately. Ask the lawyer what his/her experience is and how many cases they have handled. Professional lawyers want their clients to be happy, and are willing to listen, and answer questions. If your's isn't listening, find a replacement or add another one. You don't want to be asking what if I had... in the future. Good luck.
2006-10-11 22:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by Sir Ed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I really feel for you! I'm an adoptee (34 now) back in the '70's when done was done. These days it's more touchy and yes, if the grandmother is actually blood related then she can contest the adoption in a court. It would be a balancing act that a Judge would have to decide but blood is blood (which I think is hooey!).
So if the first guy named isn't the father - did they find out who the real father was? Otherwise the woman is is the mother of the first guy then she has absolutely NO right to your daughter.
Let me know what happens!!!!!!!!!]
Hoping in your favour!!
Kine
2006-10-11 22:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by kinechilds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idont think of she would be waiting to get the restraining order as Dad has to pose a immediately possibility and/or risk to his daughter which I dont see right here in any respect. regrettably, people who go through the main in custody battles like this are the Grandparents who truly have not have been given any rights nor sayso in this rely and prefer maximum,play a great component of their grandkids lifes. Waht mom feels is powerful is definitely doing the main harm to that little female yet curiously she doesnt care as long as she gets her way right here. it somewhat is in basic terms too undesirable that the states and courts dont provide rights to Grandparents contained in the se circumstances as us oldtimers truly do comprehend so plenty extra effective than our each so often idiotic little ones. Sorry, yet there is little criminal clever, that Grandparents can do something approximately visitation different than charm to mom and pray. I hate it too as my spouse and that i are contained in the comparable boat as you right here. good success and that i make an apology I couldnt assist you comprehend some thing extra effective however the criminal gadget is what it truly is
2016-10-02 05:26:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I was involved in a simmilar situation. The paternal grandparents have every right to fight adoption, and the sad thing for you, hun, is that they will probably win. I see them using the excuse of you being in Germany as a major arguing point. My grandparents adopted me in a simmilar situation.
Hope it all works out for you. God Bless.
2006-10-11 22:06:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow... tough one... continue to jump through hoops.. but do not listen to your Sh*thouse lawyer friends.. The military has legal aid and lots of advisors... use them... Best of Luck!
2006-10-11 22:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. sorry. :-( maybe u can both see her
2006-10-11 22:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋