im only 19 yrs old and im pregnant.?

Question

i don't know what to do. i don't know how to tell my parents. i get good grades and evreything and i know they would think of me as a disgrace in the family coz they're very conservative. i also don't want to stop schooling coz i only have 3semesters to go. but i don't have a choice. iat first i wanted to abort the baby but then i know i couldn't do it. my coscience will haunt me forever. and my boyfriend said that he would take the responsibilty so my only problem would be how to tell my parents and still live and how to deal with all the finances we would soon encounter.

Answer 1

Talk to your parents they maybe more understanding than you think. Remember you are their child and they love you no matter what you do.

You may be able to put your schooling hold while you have the baby and return to it after the birth. Maybe your parents or boyfriend could look after him/her while you are at school.

As for finances you will need to look into getting a part time job to help with the costs and your boyfriend should do the same. Once you have finished you education you will be able to get a better job full time as you will need to pay nursery fees. as I doubt your parents would want to look after the child full time.

Good luck with it all!

Answer 2

I was pregnant at 19, I really do understand. telling your parents is not easy, but they had to have a baby once, they may be more understanding than you think. Take the semester off that is during your 3rd trimester. You can go back to school. Having only 3 semesters left is good to know. you will have to find a babysitter or a daycare that is close to either home or school. make sure you check into this early in case there is a waiting list. Most daycares have a government program that can get you a lower rate depending on your income. ask them. Some schools also have daycares centers there on campus. look into that, it will be alot easier. depending on your parents reaction, maybe they can help with either watching the baby while you are in school or the finances. You can go to school after you have the baby. There is nothing wrong with it. I have 2 kids and I am going to school right now. Your family's future will be better if you keep going to school. like I said, just skip the semester when you are due. good luck. let me know if you have any more questions.

mother of 2 with one on the way

Answer 3

I was 17 when I had my first born, you are able to do schooling after the birth, But when it comes to telling your parents thats another story, you are the one who knows them and have a feeling how they will react, It won't be easy telling them but you will have to tell them sooner rather then later. You are over 18 so you have the right to decide whats best for you, Your parents will react the way they do because they love you and want whats best for you, This is your life and your path you need to make the best of it, Its not a bad thing having a baby at this age, you can look at it however you want but there are always good points. You are growing up with your child and it will be a responcibility for you to handle the best you can. It can be done and when your holding your baby you'll know its all worth it. Finances well thats something that comes with everything you do these days, you just have differant prioties now there is a baby on the way. Like I said before you can always go back to school. Its a great oppitunity for young mothers now days. Im sure your parents will be angry or whatever at first but when they finnally met there grandchild they will fall inlove and not know life without the baby.

Good luck

Answer 4

Congratulations - a baby, whenever concieved, is a blessing - and the moment you meet your son or daughter will be one of the happiest of your life. Of course you can finish your studies - a baby enriches your life, not spells the end. Telling your parents may be difficult - but this is their grandchild and they'll no doubt love and cherish them. If they don't - then this really is their loss. Finances shouln't worry you - there is plenty of help out there - and people live to their means and manage. A millionnaire thinks they're poor if their champagne isn't presented by a butler in a crystal glass - a 3rd world child will travel miles for a dirty glass of water and is happy - happiness and wealth are relative - I'm sure you'll learn to cope. A baby will change your perspective on life - they are such innocent little things and everything they achieve is amazing - the sound of a baby laughing is one of the most precious sounds in the world.

Please please do tell your parents - they'll have to know whatever the outcome - they may surprize you. Then relax and enjoy your pregnancy - you have been blessed and you will love your child.

Answer 5

oh gosh that is quite a bad situation, if it was me, i would definately stay in learning, get a loan for the minute as you will be able to pay it off when you are earning lots after your schooling is finished.

If you are definately going to keep the baby then you must tell your parents, sit them down and explain the situation, at first they will be angry and upset but they will support you.

Mistakes happen so don't beat yourself up too much, definately stay in education though, you can do it, im sure your parents or your boyfriends parents will be willing to help financially as well as with the baby .

I'm sure it will all work out, everything will turn upside down for a while but it will all be good in the end. Good luck.

Answer 6

I am 19 also and now 6 months pregnant. I didn't know how to tell my parents either. When I finally got to the point where I was so making myself so sick to my stomach that I just came out and told her she was so glad i told her when I did and didn't wait any longer cuz there is a lot bout babies that you think you know but you really have no idea no matter how old you are unless you have been through it already. My mom was just upset because of the situation it put me in. I am still going to school and working yeah its hard but youll get through it especially if your boyfriend is there helping you I know mine is soo supportive and his parents took a little longer to come around but were never angry with him or kicked him out and they have finally become excited and we can share all the ultra sound pictures with them and all! After you tell them you are going to feel so much better and releived and can actually get excited bout all of it! Good Luck!

Answer 7

i also got pregnant the first time at 19 and was in college. i went through the same thoughts as you. i didn't want to tell my family and i didn't till about 5 months along. it was really hard and they were pretty mad. i was going to give the baby up for adoption, but once i held him i couldn't. by the time i had him everything was fine between me and my family. they got over the initial shock and are now grandparents to four children. i was also very lucky to have a wonderful boyfriend who is now my husband of 8 years. your family will be upset but i'm sure they will get over the shock and be there for you. if not then hopefully you have a wonderful boyfriend who will help you and stick through the tough times with you. good luck and god bless.

Answer 8

Ask your boyfriend if you can move out with him and do you have enough finances to take care of the baby?I Doubt {sorry to say this} that your parents will accept this baby!Since you said they are conservative...Talk to your boyfriend , take a counselling session with a doctor ..Act on what you have to do , fast ! As the baby develops very fast at this stage , anyway , please ... have safe sex next time ... And PLEASE TALK TO YOUR BOY FRIEND about moving out , if you feel her doesnt comply or is too casual about this matter, please act in accordance .. Understand that its more miserable having a child who is not accepted by the so called society and more over your boyfriend - the equal cause of the child ..IF .. And mind you only IF You are strong enough to face it and take responsibility , go on ..

All the best and please act as soon as possible .

Answer 9

I am 19 aswell,and if I would get pregnant I would for sure abort it.At these age we have other prioryties,we must build a Future...what will you do later when you will need studies to get amployed? If you stop school now it will be very hard for you to get again in the rithym...
My mum had me at 19 aswell,she quit school,and distroyed her life...of course,she loves me and she is happy that she has born me...but,if you think you are not ready for a child,if you think this would complicate your life,and that it isn`t the right moment,then abort it before it is to late.I know it is a tuff decision,but you must think about you aswell.How old is your bf?Do you think that he would be responsable enough? Cause sweety,the moment that the child gets born,you will have to take it really serious,a child isn`t an accesory,you must grow it up for the next 18 years...
I know that little babys are so sweet,but if you aren`t ready please make an abortion,cause all your issues,will make you make him guily....
And if you abort it,then take next time,not to get pregnant again before you aren`t ready for it.
From my point of view,I wouldn`t do it.But you must do what you think it is the best for you.
Good Luck.

Answer 10

I had my first toddler whilst i became 18. I even have been given comments from people who look to think of it became alright to stick their nostril in my corporation. i became completely happy with my selection to marry youthful and initiate a kin precise away. I went directly to have 3 extra babies by using the time i became 23 and boy did i'm getting a great sort of comments approximately that too! :) yet what those people do not or won't comprehend is that whether it would not be their selection it became my precise for it to be mine and for them to appreciate that. I consistently needed to have my babies early by way of fact i needed to be youthful on an identical time as i became raising them. My mothers and dads have been 32 and 40 two whilst i became born and that i needed to be youthful than that. whether i'm not married to their father and have when you consider that remarried (8 years in the past) i'm nonetheless happy that I made the alternative that I made. do not permit every physique ascertain what your happiness is. in the event that they experience forced to make a remark approximately it in basic terms smile and pass on. that's not properly worth getting disillusioned over. i'm hoping this enables you somewhat abd congratulations on your new toddler!