Say if both of you live quite far apart and one has to make the decision to move ... Who would give in for the better of the both of you??
2006-10-11 21:46:20 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Charlie, looks like you are really puzzled about this, I answered another similar question of yours.
Let me put it to you this way: you are afraid to risk, because you don't know whats going to happen if you give up everything you have for this love, and this love does not work out and you end up lost! Now look at it this way: you decide to hold on to your present and make no moves regarding this love. 2 years from now (for instance) this love is gone... distance did its demage.. You will be sitting in your chair one day, wandering "what if" you moved to be with your partner..
You know the statistic that one out of 3 men regret about the one who "got away"? Don't be one of them! Action speaks louder than words! The universe has a strange way of assisting the brave and risk-takers! How do you think Richard Branson or Donald Trump got to where they are? You never know what you loose when you win and waht you win when you loose!
My advice comes from my own experience! I moved to another continent for my beloved! Things will work out for you! Just make the step! I would recomend you a book to read: By Paulo Coelio "The Alchemist". Good luck my man! Hope you get your inspiration!
2006-10-12 00:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend/husband (we are common law) and I maintained a long distance relationship for about a year.
We lived two thousand miles apart and it was really hard to be away from each other.
I came to visit him in January and didn't leave.
I left behind my family, friends, personal belongings and not to mention my cat.
I'm really glad I made the move to be with him because I love being with him.
When you give up "Everything" you have to move closer to your lover, you realize that "everything" is the one thing holding you back. "Everything" doesn't define me. I define me.
That doesn't mean I don't miss my family and friends. I miss them ALOT everyday. (We can't wait to visit them). But if I allow them to make my decisions for me, I wouldn't really be living and following my heart.
2006-10-12 11:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Victoria R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how far and where you are talking about. If it is someplace you would later end up resenting your partner for living in it may not be the best decision. Is this a place you can be happy?
2006-10-12 07:22:19 · answer #3 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends also on your job. If it's gonna be easier for you to find a job where she/he lives, maybe you should make the decision to move. I'm having the same problem now, and since he can't leave his job there, it might be me who's gonna make the move. Hopefully, i won't regret it!!
2006-10-12 04:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by Naughty boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Did it. moved to Missouri from Pennsylvania. Hate Missouri. Married 20 years last week. We will move to Pa when we retire. That was the deal we made. Worth it to me.
2006-10-12 07:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by mark g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recently moved away from my family to be with my fiancee - its not too far away but a good 1.30 hrs drive
Realised if we were ever going to be together one of us had to take the step and he needed to live here cause of work so it had to be me
I dont regret it - YET!!!
2006-10-12 04:49:12 · answer #6 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of u gotta compromise if one dun giv in,one should...if one is fire another one muz b water den things will workout easily.its better if both of u giv in n understan each other feelin...well i guez dats wat i can sae cuz base on experience im owaze the water to put off the fire....peace outzzz
2006-10-12 06:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by annaqi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, my current employer's benefits are too good to leave. If it's meant to be, it'll work itself out.
2006-10-12 08:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by Liza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, It's the ulimate sign that you LOVE this person and will do anything for them
2006-10-12 08:21:24 · answer #9 · answered by traci s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone you would do anything for them...
2006-10-12 04:56:14 · answer #10 · answered by Teena R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋