my bf and i are planning to get married soon, but b4 that i made a little experiment, i used another yahoo id to chat him. after some introduction of ourselves, the other me asked him if he is committed and he said "no, i dont have a gf yet". and he wants "us" to meet immediately, he give his number to me and he said he will wait for my call or sms. i know i lied too.. help me wat will i do? will i tell him that i am the one that he wants to meet... or what.. y does he wants us to setlle down when he is not man enough to admit that he is already committed?? ;(
2006-10-11 21:23:01 · 18 answers · asked by s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Neither one of you are ready for marriage.
You obviously have trust issues or you wouldn't have gone through all that trouble to check up on him.
He has commitment issues obviously.
This is a match NOT made in Heaven. But you already have your wedding dress picked out, I know. My advise... spend $1000's of your daddy's hard earned money having the wedding you've dreamed about since you were 7 and pretend to love each other for a few months. Then... have a hugely dramatic break-up and costly divorce (because Attorneys have to make a living, too).
Unless you think that's sarcasm and really care about your own life. In which case... I would say.. break up with this young man immediately and don't even think about getting married for at least 10 more years or 5 years after you meet the next candidate... which ever comes LAST.
Good luck.
2006-10-11 21:25:47 · answer #1 · answered by keysfunding 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as the perfect person. You are not perfect he is not perfect. You need to be honest to yourself and to him. If he can not be honest with you then there is no trust and there is no relationship with out trust. You are the only one that will never lie or cheat on yourself. Expect it from everyone else you meet as it is there way. An old prover goes a scorpion came to a river to cross it but it was too deep. He say a frog which he asked to take him across on his back, the frog said no. You will sting me and I will die. The scorpion said if I did that then we would both die. So the frog agreed. In the middle of the river the scorpion stung the frog: As the frog was dying his last words where why? The scorpion said its my nature. wish you the best.
2006-10-12 04:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Canadian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him seriously and ask him if he's still interested in dating another girls. And ask him if someone ask him if he's committed what would be his answer, then Analise his answer, and you can find what's the real score if he's serious in your relationship. Before you settle down w/ your boyfriend you need to be sure that he won't cheat you when you're already married, it is better for you to know earlier than too late and sorry for your self and find your self in pain and crying. And if he can't be serious then you know now what to do. But there's always a second chance and he might change if he do love you... Good luck!
2006-10-12 07:14:56 · answer #3 · answered by housewife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you really stay with a man who you can't trust? He should have been giving you some sort of security you wouldn't need to do things like this. Confront him, what you did is absolutely nothing in comparison, although it's just an internet thing, who know what else is going on. Im sorry hun, no he isn't man enough for you, he doesn't deserve you.
2006-10-12 04:55:53 · answer #4 · answered by idk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi friend...
Well u are in a geniune problem.But let me explain you in detail..see in this world no one is totally committed to opposite sex..the reaspon is there are lots of day dreams and fantasies in boths mind..maybe even u would have accpeted once invitaion if your bf would have chatted in diffent name after your palns of marriage..
Your experiment was good..in which u have got the idea that your bf minds is bit fluctuating one..but at the same time i hope you are the one who knows him very well..just go to him and feel free to talk to him..make sure that he loves you in real and not just for the fantasies in women..Dont take things very seriously..liofe is very vast..just have the courage to take bold decisions..take care bye bye
2006-10-12 05:14:01 · answer #5 · answered by lalit_jain123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in through this too .. don't worry it's normal .. guys are afraid of this idea so he just wanted to test his self if he is ready or not .. don't make it such a big deal u approached him in a wrong way. you should be honest with him, tell him your thoughts and your feelings. He will understand coz if he don't you would never reach this point and started a seriouse realtionship will end up with marrieg.
good luck girl.
2006-10-12 04:31:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chat him again and accept his invitation, then at the place where you will be meeting ask him again if he has someone to be expected. If he denies, then it's the time that you will tell him the truth, then BREAK HIM, he's not the right man for you.
2006-10-12 04:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by vsg0818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl hes a man and if hes not committed to you 100% now do not walk down that isle.. and if you dont trust him then you definately dont need to marry him...because you'll just be headed for divorce.. save urself from heartache and save some money...set him down tell him and stop playing games because ur only hurting urself like that..
2006-10-12 04:28:14 · answer #8 · answered by sweetlady38237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men r like that.always wanting to have fun on the side.tell him that a girl friend of urs has chatted him up online and told u about it(his saying that hes not commited).see what he says.listen to ur heart.
2006-10-12 04:26:46 · answer #9 · answered by archie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cannot change the fact that you know, whether you confront him or not. if it were me i'd let it and him go, let him wait for the call that won't come and walk away with some dinity for yourself--he is not committed, or he wouldn't have done such a thing
2006-10-12 04:31:48 · answer #10 · answered by phyllis_neel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋