found out 2 days after i moved and he went accross the country that he loved me to- never able to find him again- also think of him constantly-so much that every few months or so, i try to look him up....well last week i found him-:( what the hell!- do i call him and "see how hes doing"-or does he move again,only this time in fear of me being totally psycho? im not doubting my sanity- i wont beg him to leave his wife or anything if hes married, i just still miss him- ive compared every guy since then to him -and i still dream about him at night- ive never loved anyone else like i did and do him...............................at LEAST give me some pointers....
2006-10-11 21:22:27 · 13 answers · asked by nickname4anne 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Everyone needs a friend. You don't have to be with someone to love them. At least call him and let him know that your thinking of him. Ask him how things are. If it was meant to be it will. If not then you at least know. Wish you the best on this.
2006-10-11 21:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would call him, as a friend, see how he's doing, see if he's married. If he is, then perhaps that will give you some closure. If he's not, maybe you can suggest meeting with him, you know, 'for old time's sake', see how you get along. Or otherwise email him, and correspond for a while. You may find that he's nto entirely as you remembered him, or that you've idealized him. I know this happened when I met someone I'd been in love with, four years later. I realized he was a complete asshole. Maybe he had changed over the years, or perhaps my image of him was skewed. Either way, it ended my obsession and gave me closure!
(Though of course now and then I still think about the person I saw him as back then, being in love doesn't just go away, but the expectations and the need to compare others to him are gone, and that's a big relief!)
2006-10-11 21:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
scout out the situation.
if hes married dont throw that monkey wrench.
if hes not married then this may be your big chance.
something else to ponder here....how did you happen to find out he loves you after you left? You should reinvestigate that claim and be utterly certain of that source that simply feeds into your (yes it definately is, i have been on both sides of this coin)
obsession. Think really hard about the source of that information and question its validity before storming off into some whirlwind of romance with this guy, making a fool of yourself etc.
If you really love him you wont hesitate to make a fool of yourself anyways. Just be ready for a crushing let down when he either uses you out of convenience or reacts with indifference and shows you only enough care to defer your attentions. There will only be one way to find out the truth, which is what you should be focussed on rather than feeding your egotistical obsession.
So restraint and taking it slow are definately in your favor for sanity's sake. You do have to face your obsession for what it is aside from reality. Exposure to the real person you objectify may help to clear your head a bit. If hes totally nuts about you too, then nurture a trust based on common sense and know your passions well from this as a seperate issue.
2006-10-11 21:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by jorluke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly, you prefer somebody to place up their adventure of looking love whilst they pronounced (or felt) they could in no way discover true love. i became 25 when I met the guy of my aims. After a quick affair, he pronounced he would not prefer me and left me. This injury, of direction. For the subsequent 6 years, I spent a great sort of time on my own yet I additionally did a multitude of relationship. and by this relationship, i stumbled on there have been lots 'nicer' adult men. So I cherished that discovery, that he wasn't as superb as i presumed. yet I additionally did not discover every physique and here i'm at 31 as single as may be. Having a kin became consistently some thing so specific to me. I sort of knew around the age of 24-25 (some months before I met this guy) that i could finally end up on my own - and that i assume it did become genuine. I in basic terms have some years left to make a toddler and that i'm extremely disheartened it ought to not take place.
2016-10-16 02:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say call him. You never know how it will turn out, but if you don't, you will regret it forever and keep thinking what could have happened if you called him.
If he's married or something, at least you'll know and you'll be able to move on with your life. Take the chance and pick up the phone.
2006-10-11 21:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by JediMaster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's married then whats below probably doesn't apply but.
You must have friends in common, or you wouldn'thave found out how he felt. Ask them if he's married, or in a serious relationship.
If not contact him.
If he is ge,t them to give him your details and see if he contacts you.
I'm in the same sort of situation at the minute, getting together with someone I've known, and been attracted to, for years but it was never the right time.
We never seemed to be "single" at the same time.
But now we are I, said recently something to her and found she felt the same way.
2006-10-11 21:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what is going to happen, but you HAVE to make the call.
You can't live like this any more girlfriend. this is no way to survive. call the man, and find out what is in your future. you may get your hearts desire, but don't count on it, that stuff only usually happens in the movies.
but you do have to make the call, get your nerves ready and just do it sweetie.
2006-10-11 21:40:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him, find him, call his parents, someone knows how to get ahold of him. I let this happen 15 years ago. Even if the feelings he has for you aren't the same, at least you told him.
2006-10-11 21:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it and make the call, you dont have to confess your feelings in the first 5 minutes you talk to him. Call up and see how hes doing, if hes free youve got alot of hope!
2006-10-11 21:26:22 · answer #9 · answered by chiara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's it going to hurt to call him. I'd call him and just see what he's been up to who knows you may be able to rekindle a romance.
2006-10-11 21:25:30 · answer #10 · answered by Marenight 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋