well she and i have had a weird relationship, we have a son and she has left me twice we are together now and each time we broke up she came back to me but now we dont kiss or ne thing even when we r out in public she walks ahead of me and our sonwe dont ever talk and imean never nothing about us and she always wispers things to ppl when i leave the room,when i come back in everone gets quiet, she is very dissrespectful to me,its getting hard to live w but i love my son so much i dont want to leave she really isnt a very good mother so i fear for him and i no as long as im around then he is cared for but my point is if she hates me so much then y play games w me i no she is into another guy,is she trying to make me snap?
2006-10-11 20:19:57 · 10 answers · asked by strykemded75 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey watch it gallow, not all women are crazy LOL, I think you should get your son and get out, you don't want to leave your son with her and let some other dude raise your son, most dudes don't like other dudes kids and mistreat them. Plus if she is into this other guy and your gone, she will focus all her attention on him and ignore your son. Sad but true, get the kid and go NOW !
2006-10-11 20:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard place to be in!! Talk to her but don't be rude, tell her how you feel about the way she is treating you. I don't know the history between the two of you so maybe there is something there that makes her treat you the way she does? All you can do is try. If she is an unfit mother then you need to speak to someone about it and prove that she isn't capable of taking care of your son. Look at the BIG picture.....are you treating her the way you want to be treated? Communication is key, if you have tried everything, then it is time to go. Don't live in a situation like that, it is not good for you, for her or your son!!
2006-10-11 20:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its coz she doesnt want your son to think bad stuff bout her, if she keeps coming back to you, that must mean she needs you, why don't you get her to tlak to you with the son as well, so he has some opinion too? If she isnt a good mother, your son will agree, so why don't you take him away or something, and give him a better life and a new start? If shes into another guy, just let her go, its her loss, not yours.
2006-10-11 20:25:27 · answer #3 · answered by Caity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I think you need to try to explain to her how this behavior could possibly affect your child. Then if you can hopefully get her to talk to you tell her how out of line it is to talk badly about you behind your back. You should also talk to a social worker. If she's as bad as you described at caring for your son he should definitely not be left with her. Calmly try to get her to respond as to why she's back with you if she isn't serious about your relationship. Let her know that communication is one of the top three things you need to have in a relationship. The number one thing you need to have a healthy relationship is monogamy. And that means no messing with any guy except for you. Hopefully this might get through to her & get her to talk things over with you. If it does & you decide you want to stay with her, you definately need to get her to a counselor. If things don't work out between you (hopefully you get custody of your son) under no circumstances should you blame yourself for any of this. Just move on & forget about her. I know this is easier said than done in most cases, but you must try. I hope everything works out alright for you. Signed some guy in S. Dak.
2006-10-11 20:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by ccl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not trying to make you snap. She's either still with you for the sake of your son or she has nothing better to do than claim she's in a secure relationship. You are going to have to force her to talk to you about the futre of your relationship and together make a decision once and for all
2006-10-11 20:22:58 · answer #5 · answered by moroaero 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude.. you life is f****ed up..
i try open dialogue.. women resort to those indirect ways to tell you something bothers them.. i know its crazy, but most women are..
you just need to talk to them straight of what's bothering her.. or else, i really see no future btween you two and you guys are better off, especially your son, than to live in a life filled with disrespect, hatred and distrust..
it may help to ask her friends/relatives help of what's really going-on..
all the best
2006-10-11 20:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by KnightSaber2000 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant allow her to play games with you! leave her, but still take care of your son! don't let her mes you around like that, its not fair
2006-10-11 20:24:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might want you to leave, but doesn't have the heart to tell you straight out. you should really talk to her about it. or she is just crazy like any other woman
2006-10-11 20:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by gallow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
low self esteem and even lower standards
2006-10-11 22:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, leave. take the kid and leave.
2006-10-11 20:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋