One of my guy friends recently let a new room mate move in. The room mate and I have been talking for several weeks now and he finally made "the move". Well, as I was browsing MySpace a few minutes ago, I find his profile that reveals he's married and has 2 children!!! I'm assuming he's going through a divorce and I feel horrible now, but I had no clue!!! What should I say to him and how should I react?
2006-10-11 20:08:36 · 34 answers · asked by Brittany H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him the truth about how you found out this info. and then demand that he tell you the truth as well. Once you know, then you will know how to handle the info. and what you should do next. If he says he is married, but they are separated, tell him that you are not interested in having a relationship with a married man. That way he can work out his marital problems on his own without involving you. If he tells you that he is sure his marriage is over, but they just haven't filed for a divorce yet for whatever reason, tell him that you will be supportive of him, but you are going to stay out of the picture until the paperwork is filed, and you are sure that he is available. There is wrong and there is right. Do the right thing and let him handle his business before getting involved with him, it is in both your best interest.
2006-10-11 20:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the worst thing would be to jump to conclusions. If I was confident enough to do so, I would confront him about it, not antagonistically though. Be firm and ask for the truth. Or just ask him. If he is going through a divorce, then he's probably feeling a bit depressed, upset, etc and would need support through a very difficult time.
I hope it all comes out okay.
2006-10-11 20:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Melissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all is the guy friend really a friend? Doubt it - you had to find out on freakin myspace that dude is married. Also why are you "assuming" he is going thru a divorce - he could be flat out cheating with no intentions of divorce. You were browsing myspace - Lot's of folks on myspace, how did you "stumble" on his profile. hmmmm...but I will assume you are being truthful and if you are dump him and reassess your relationship with your guy friend too...
2006-10-11 20:41:45 · answer #3 · answered by kabnab1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not assume that he is going for a divorce. If he was not telling the truth before, he will continue to lie, The best thing is to stay far away from him and forget the relationship, find someone else.
Good Luck
2006-10-11 20:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell him that you know he is married, if you are interested in him tell him any further moves will have to wait until his divorce is final, because even though he might be seperated from his spouse if he starts sleeping with you it is called adultery because he is STILL legally married until that divorce is final. So you'd be sleeping with a married man...do you want to be known for that?
2006-10-11 20:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you found his myspace and that you want to add him. See if he brings it up. Kind of odd that he wouldnt of brought it up himself if he wasnt hiding it. But some guys you have to get talkin. If he doesnt bring it up then say something like so how long where you married or something to that affect. I would just come right out and say something like " are you married" If he was I would leave. Not worth it if he is.
2006-10-11 20:12:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad for you, but run as fast as you can. Besides, why would you want to be involved with a man that is already having trouble with another woman and not being 100% truthful with you. Obviously you are just easy access for him during a bad time in his life. Bad Start!!
2006-10-12 03:26:34 · answer #7 · answered by Breeze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He is obviously filling in the "I don't want to be alone" moments while going through marital difficulties. Who knows what ties they have together, assets, liabilities, issues, history, etc.
There is the possibility that the information you found has not been updated, but there is still the possibility that he is on the rebound.
Be careful, be very careful.
2006-10-11 22:39:05 · answer #8 · answered by *~*~*~~~His Angel~~~*~*~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUH!! Guys will always make a move when there is a female liviing on the premisies- he sure has not been honest w you- che needs to be totally divorced - not just separated - if he did not tell you that intimate detail he has no business being intimate w you- you are a very convenient piece of action for him- the jerk=I would want him out- asap-D
2006-10-11 20:14:16 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why r u assuming he's going through a divorce - bcoz u intend to keep him? u really want to go out with a married man? - all the best of luck bcoz u'll need it especially after he leaves u when he's wife finds out
2006-10-11 20:29:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋