My girlfriend and I are trying to start a sexual life. We tried for the first time but it was really hard to penetrate. She is a virgin so it took a lot of time and patience but we got it almost all the way in. It seemed like there was a barrier or something because everytime i pushed even the slightest bit, it hurt her alot and didn't make any progress. I would like to know if this is the hymen, or she is just too small. Also, I read on a website that the hymen is an outer layer of the vagina, but other sites are saying differently. PLZ HELP!
2006-10-11 20:06:31 · 14 answers · asked by Josh M 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
A girl that has sex for the first time may hurt because of the hymen is not "elastic" enough. If she is not a cheerleader or does gymnasics then it will be very tight. If a girl expects that she'll be having intercourse and is worried about her hymen, she can prepare for it a few weeks ahead of time by inserting a clean finger or tampon into the vagina and gently pushing it from side to side. She may experience a bit of bleeding and pain when the hymen is stretched, but this is normal and nothing to worry about. In very rare cases, women who have very thick hymens may need to seek medical assistance to remove the obstruction.
I found a web site that may help you. Good Luck! ;)
2006-10-12 07:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would advise tht you check and double check tht you are poking at the right hole. You would be surprised how many actually poke at the wrong hole the first time they do it. All out of ignorance and innocence.
If you are at the right hole and it still hurts, then consider lubrication. Many a times guys are just so impatience tht they penetrate before the lady is ready. Make sure her hole is wet enough. Lubricate her with KY jelly if necessary. You may want to give her oral sex. That's a pleasurable way to lubricate a lady.
The third problem might be a tight hole or a strong hymen. This is more serious and may require surgery. See a doctor if you think this is the problem.
Remember, sex feels the best when it is enjoyed slowly and gently. Avoid rushing at all cause. Enjoy and hope all goes well with you two.
2006-10-12 04:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the first time was painful for her, she is tightening up because she thinks it is goin to hurt her again. Use lots of foreplay, lubricant, and she needs to take a slow deep breaths and relax. Very slowly rub her the outside of her vagina with the tip of your penis to keep her aroused entering it a little at a time. In no time you will be inside. The hymen was more than likely already broken the first time you penetrated her. It is very unlikely that she will be too small to accomodate you. Just be patient and do not rush her.
2006-10-12 03:41:24 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first few times when you start having sex, it does hurt. If you feel like you are hitting something up inside her it could be (or not) a vaginal septum.
That was what was wrong with me. It was a thin layer of tissue that went straight up and down up inside of me. (I was born that way and had it removed)But everytime me and my now husband would have sex it would hurt and i would bleed and it was cause of that.
Or then again maybe she just wasn't all the way relaxed. Get the mood going and let it happen on its on and don't push. Just be gentle with her and use ky jelly.
Maybe she should go and see a doctor cause it could be a # of things causing her this pain.
2006-10-12 03:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek professional help! Pain may be caused by a medical condition, otherwise use KY Lube, sometimes the pain may be caused by friction caused by lack of lubrication. If, that barrier you are referring to is her hymen, then that must be causing her pain. Again seek professional medical help, ask her to see her gynecologist.
2006-10-12 05:51:28 · answer #5 · answered by dontagala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's because your girlfriend is/was a virgin. It takes a while for a girl to "loosen up". This is where the expression "tight" comes from. A girls body isn't built ready for that kind of thing so it slowly needs to be broken in.
2006-10-12 23:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by banana_monster_22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't skimp on the foreplay! You need to make sure she is fully aroused (i.e. wet). You may also need lube, especially if you are circumsized, as a cut penis actually pulls moisture out of the vagina.
2006-10-12 03:21:17 · answer #7 · answered by Terrible Threes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needs LOTS and LOTS of foreplay to get her very very very relaxed. If she's scared or tensed at all, it'll hurt. If she senses you getting agitated, she'll get upset and it'll hurt. It'll take lots of time, but practice makes perfect, good luck!
2006-10-12 10:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to be checked out by a gynecologist to find out exactly what the problem is; this is not a problem for GUESSWORK (like here)!
2006-10-12 03:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my point IV view ^ from my experience a perfect sex is a very very wet one, LUBRICATION is the answer to hurt problems if anything is ok biological.... and so far the best lubricant and I'm serious i do.t lie it's the silava (your spit) so.... oral sex before sex is perfect
2006-10-12 03:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by l_k_s_1986 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋