having kids with one man ,is it hard to move on without hurting the kids?
2006-10-11 20:02:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Kids are smarter than you think. They can feel something is wrong but don't know what. The longer you stay and get more unhappy the more fighting you will do. Trust me. This is worse on your kids than separation. They will assume that the fighting is their fault or that mom isn't happy because of something they did. They will soon start trying to fix this problem that isn't theirs. In the long run it is better to have two happy loving parents than two parents that are making everyone unhappy. I am 25 and i' just starting to forgive my parents for doing this to my brother and I. We don't have to many happy moments to remember. Just a lot of fighting and misery. Please don't make he same mistake my parents did for 28 years. Life is to short and healing takes longer when the pain is prolonged.
2006-10-11 20:38:01 · answer #1 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We really need more information before we can help you.
While the children are young, they won't be able to understand. If you can manage to hold out until your kids are teenagers, they're better equipped to handle the split.
In the meantime, you have two options. You can either try to make the marriage work - see if you can fall in love with each other again, or at least like each other. Or you can agree to live separate lives (I don't mean have other partners, just do your own thing). Either way, I think you have to be honest with each other. See a marriage counsellor to work out the best way forward, you need an impartial referee to help you.
2006-10-12 03:20:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is possible to move on an not hurt the kids. Especially if there is a lot of arguing , I left my Husband when my kids were younger and they liked it much better. Besides they still get to visit. and there living environment is argument free.
2006-10-12 11:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by jingles_200 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old your kids are?if they are big enough, maybe you should stop suffering and tell them the truth..it is sooo hard to live with someone, whom you have absolutely no feelings for him..
you know, you are lying to your kids too..maybe you dont see it that way, but you are faking your feelings on their father..
in the end, the decision is still yours..if you think there's somehow someway you can improve your feelings towards the man,go ahead, give your relationship a chance and try to grow those flowers of love between the both of you..
if not, your heart know the best what you should and you would do..
all the best to you!
2006-10-12 03:08:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG~ Get this...I would have written that SAME THING about 6 months ago. I finally LEFT and have not been happier in ALL of my life! If you're not happy where you are in life...then only you can change it. NOBODY ELSE. And if the person you're with knows that you are unhappy and aren't changing things for you...then GET OUT! You'll be better off...Trust Me...Please...trust me! The kids r better off in the long run. Mine is anyhow!
2006-10-12 03:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Q... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋