but im not talkin about passed out drunk, just happy drunk but passed tipsy haha
2006-10-11 20:00:00 · 29 answers · asked by d3barz 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
ok sorry im not talkin about but raping my friend, but its jus stuff he does when he thinks im drunk like slappin my *** and stickin a stick in my face with a condom on it and and whole lotta stuff, im jus sayin gettin him to go there with me not anything forceful but something compromising**
2006-10-11 20:09:24 · update #1
you'll probably get him to pass out, if he figures out why his @ss hurts youre probably dead
2006-10-11 20:04:45 · answer #1 · answered by moolie_wfo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Firstly never confuse playing around, with sexual feelings. He might just joke around, as many males do.
Secondly, lets place you in a similar situation. A girl friend oh yours comes here and asks a similar question about you. Then she begins to use excuses like: he says he's gay but he holds my hand, he kisses me on the cheek, he even sleeps in the same bed as me. How would you feel (of course you may be bisexual but you can understand where I am coming from).
Finally, lets say you decide to go through it anyway, there are certain things you MUST keep in mind:
1.NO MEANS NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2.Prepare for ANY consequences, since you are seducing him
3.USE PROTECTION
4.If he gives any signal that you must stop, stop IMMEDIATELY
5.Stay within a certain limit of alcohol, we do not want anyone to be in danger, as well as understand that this may classify as rape if he cannot think properly
Now for a few tips:
1.Do not push him into anything
2.Make sure the mood is relaxed as the event may turn awkward and potentially ruin your friendship
3.It would be advisable that he make the first move, although this is highly unlikely
4.Finally understand that he is in no way bound in a relationship with you if this event goes your way
P.S. If this event turns out for the worst, do not dwell on it. Take into accunt your mistake, and learn from it.
Hope I have helped.
2006-10-12 04:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless he has some amount of hidden sexual interest or curiosity, perhaps repressed, it won't work.I have had a few sexual encounters with heterosexuals in my younger years and I can tell you that the only reason that anything happened was because of their own curiosity.Alcohol might relax a person and even free inhibitions but it doesn't alter a persons desires.So, unless you forces him to have sex, which is both immoral and illegal, he is only going to have sex with you if there is some part of him that might be curious.
My suggestion is that you keep your friend as a friend.If you advance on him one of two things can occur if he is not interested at all or curious at all.Either it could end or change your friendship or it could offend him so much that you may risk more then your friendship.If I were you I would seek other men who would be interested in sex.Not a good friend who might not or even probably is not interested in sex.
The only exception to that rule, in my opinion, would be if he gave you some hint of interest.But be careful.Your own desires might be interferring with your ability to understand him and his interest or lack there of.Some guys might want to experiment and perhaps that could be the case with him.But if he knows you're gay and has no problem with that then he could be just a very sexually secure hetrosexual and sexually secure people usually have no interest in experimenting with something they already know that they are not into.
And if he is flirting with you then perhaps you should just bring it up with him.Be tactful.
2006-10-12 03:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by BuckFush 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I hope you are joking. Having sex with someone who is even just "tipsy" could be considered rape, especially if this is something that he/she would not ordinarily do. If you really like this person I think you would desire a better first time than a questionable romp. Besides you could potentially ruin a friendship. Although there's people who say that they "know what they are doing when their drunk", there's also those who don't. Maybe this one is best left as a fantasy to be played out by yourself, or while with another willing partner.
2006-10-12 03:07:08 · answer #4 · answered by fbarkon 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
To even think that is... horrible.
Take it this way. If you're a true friend, then his sexuality shouldn't matter. When people are drunk they do stuff that they would never consider in real life. If you were a true friend, you would respect him and not pursue it. Don't let him do something he'll regret.
If you do go through with it, then most likely you will ruin your friendship. I wouldn't risk it. Control your hormones and be a good friend.
2006-10-12 04:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by reven_raptor 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1st off you should not have to resort to getting someone drunk to get with them. Either they want you or they don't. 2ndly they are not in their right mind to make a conscience decision (which is what you want obviously) so not only is it a low blow but it could also get you into trouble with the law. My advise, find someone sober who wants you.
P.S. if he is STRAIGHT as you say he would probably kick your *** once he is fully sober. Now let me ask you something. Why do gay men like to go after straight men. Is it because it is a challenge?
2006-10-12 03:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by mystique_dragon4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you really misrepresent gay people who do not usually go around harassing and assaulting people. Go to a gay club and have consensual sex with someone who has had a few beers and that is it. Yes, use a condom. Shove yourself into your straight friend against his will after getting him drunk and you will be in a jail cell, buddy.
2006-10-12 03:45:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell him that what he does when he thinks you are drunk is sending you signals that he wants to get it on. And the next time he does it, when he is sober and you are drinking start putting the moves on him. Either he will respond the way you want him to, or he won't. Either way, you have to be ready for whatever his response might be. But if you give him fair warning that he is sending signals and he keeps doing it, what are you suppose to do? But go about it the classy way, when he is sober. You don't want something to happen when he is tipsy, that he might regret, because that could ruin your friendship
2006-10-12 03:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may lose a friend, and in some comunnities, unless you are as drunk ashim or more, you may end up behind bars. But of course, if he agrees, even with a couple of shots, you may be buying a very gay baby craddle soon. Have fun! ;)
2006-10-12 03:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by Diego A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is straight why bother? You might ruin your friendship with him, if you want to keep his friendship I would say not to do anything. Would you want a girl to get you drunk that liked you and take advantage of you? I know I would not want a guy to get me drunk and take advantage of me. But, whatever you do I hope it is consensual.
2006-10-12 05:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by spiritcavegrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why ask for our oppinion? he's YOUR friend and those are YOUR kind of jokes so...you should know best.you should also know how he reacts when drunk...so if you really wanna do it just take a minute and think about the moment after, when he'll be sober. will he laugh at it, or will he kick your @ss?
2006-10-12 04:36:11 · answer #11 · answered by dianka(â?ªis a kidâ?ª)â?¢ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋