guys do u think this guy will be a good husband in future or not?

Question

i wonder will my boy friend can be a good husband in future... when ever i face hardships in life he wont say a single sentence to say dont worry i am there for u, but my friends is always there to support me, to advice me, but not my lover. in the bed when ever his mood is on i have to satisfy his sexual needs, he is not worried about me, but when my mood is turned on he will fight with me and find excuses and go away so i mean when ever i need ... he is not there for me, for all his needs i am there... will he be a good husband in future or should i move on with a person who has feelings for me

he never tried to see my positive sides, he will always say my negative sides. he always say ur very very stupid person that i ever seen.. but i dont say a word against him...

Answer 1

Read your question back to yourself and the answer should be obvious

Answer 2

Everybody is selfish but the person who had learned to delay the satisfaction of own need and allow the others to satisfy their needs first are socially better accepted person. It seems from your statement that your boy friend is just opposite to what I said.
It requires shaping of ones behavior. Shaping of behavior is being done by the parents and also depends upon the family culture. But many persons can also learn gradually as they grow.
To answer your question specifically I don't know whether he is going to be a good husband or not but if you have understood the concept then probably it will hurt you less as compared to today.

Answer 3

I am not in favour that he will be a good hubby for u. as far as the nature is concerned, people could be some times rude, rough & hard but over all the person should be caring, understanding & at least he must hav the guts to say some thing to soothe u when u r in trouble, beside doin some thing for u.

I think the guy is only interested in his needs & he really does not care for u. marriages work when their is friendship in it , other wise it become prison for each other. if he is not there for u in the time of care before marriage, what will he do after that ?

Answer 4

Doesn't sound good at all. If he is like this now, marriage is NOT going to change him. It's good that u can see the early signs of trouble before jumping into a lifelong commitment with this person. It's best to move on and find someone else who will not only respect u as a person but will meet your needs as well.

Answer 5

Its always good to put your feelings down in writing. When you do this you can see exactly how you are being treated. You are being treated badly. How dare he tell you that you are stupid and if you stay with him for too much longer you will end up believing that you are. You deserve much better than this. A good solid marriage is always based on both parties being sensitive to each others feelings. It is a lopsided relationship now, so it will be even more lopsided if you marry him. Nope, he is not good marriage material, but I think you know that already, you just wanted to get your anger out in writing. Dump him, he doesnt deserve you.

Answer 6

no. i understand that you are obviously confused, but you need to look around you at happy relationships. look at people who are with other people. how do they seem? how do you feel about marrying this person? do you think you could stand it? get out, now. you need someone who reciprocates your feelings, not ignores them. start doing something for yourself.
and don't be apologetic about it. you have every right to break it off. remember, you are your own person and he has no control over you. come on, he is not reliable, doesn't care for you, nothing. does he sometime become violent? this should tell you the truth. it's all in there. move on to a person who respects and loves you.

Answer 7

If someone loves u, he will see to your needs first, u will come bef him like the way u do for ur bf. As for ur bf, he doesn't seems to care for u a lot. He matters, nt u. He doesn't respect u also. And that's nt a quality of a gud husband. Love, care, commitment, consideration, communication and respect are needed for a gud marriage and the one who makes these efforts make a gud husband/wife. And these kind of persons do exist.

Answer 8

I hope you're feeling okay, cause I can imagine how much that could really hurt. I do think that you should go and find a guy who will treat you right, who will support you and love you no matter what. He's out there somewhere waiting for you, Im sure. Take care now!

Answer 9

If All he has is negative things to say to you along with negative responses and nothing positve, well you are obviously off to a negative start and that is no way to enter a meaningfull longterm relationship. If he does'nt want to open his eyes and see the beauty in you then set your boundaries and start prepareing yourself for rough waters and send him up the creek without a paddle

Answer 10

Their are good times too right... If I were you, I'd sit down with a pen and paper, and make a list of the good, and bad qualities... Check and see if these "BAD" qualities, are something you can spend the rest of your life dealing with... If not... Then I would say break it off... I know easier said than done right... But seriously, you got to consider yourself, and do whats right for you.... I hope this helps...

Answer 11

I think you already know the answer to your question. NO, he will not be a good future husband. You list the reasons why he will not in your detail paragraph below your question.