We have an army life and a 3 month old baby. My husbands hours are long and i'm a stay at home mom.
2006-10-11 19:28:22 · 5 answers · asked by d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i believe that our problems are geting bigger. I try to talk about whas upseting me and he just stares back. This is just adding fuel to the fire. How can i get him to communicate with me more? Before we got married he wanted to talk everything out. It feels as though my son and i have become a burdin. I need some help.
2006-10-12 17:54:02 · update #1
Been there. This is the "character building" part of life. Get through the 20s, it gets much better in the 30s. In the mean time, make the best of the time you have together. Be careful to not toss the baby at him as soon as he walks in. He's had a rough day and need a wife to be supportive. Your life is hard, I know but it's nothing like his.
2006-10-11 19:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What works extremely well is to take time out. Pick a day, either weekly or fortnightly that is just your day. It may be a different day each week. That is your day. You can choose anything you want to do...go get your hair done, go to the beach, go to the movies....anything you would like to do...its your day. Your husband needs a day like this as well. It relieves a lot of stress and it needs to happen on a regular basis. You will find when it becomes a routine thing in your marriage you will be looking forward to your day and you will decide in advance what you are going to do. Sort it out with your husband on a day he has off where he can watch the baby. Or else, have you got relatives or good friends that will look after the baby for the day. Even if it isnt the whole day to start with, just a few hours would help. I do this on a regular basis...I have my day once a week. My children are grown, but I still like having my day. Everyone needs time out, especially mothers with little children. It gives us time to destress and re group. Try it, I think you will be surprised how beneficial it will be for both of you.
2006-10-12 02:55:41 · answer #2 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!
It would be a good thing to get together with Friends and things that get you out and doing activities. Take up sewing, or have a relative stay with your baby for a few hours and you go to lunch with the girls, or take a nice walk on a beach.
The USO is a good start too. It's for Military families and you could meet other moms who probably feel the way you do at times and would be good to share common interests and THAT would take off alot of stress!
Hobbies are good choices also.
2006-10-12 02:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to get rid of stress for good is to find the source of it and eliminate it. Is it the military lifestyle? The new baby? Other sources?
One way is to set aside a time to talk. Discuss your fears, needs, worrys with your spouse after the baby has gone to bed.
Many military posts have volunteer jobs with day care provided that you could get out of the house on occasion and meet new people.
2006-10-12 04:32:28 · answer #4 · answered by mslider2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, you will need to eliminate the source of the stress for any long term relief. However - for a guaranteed fix in the short term, use physical exertion. The more you exert yourself, the less stress can exist within you. Believe me, thirty minutes on a stairMaster and you simply are not able to be stressed.
2006-10-12 03:37:25 · answer #5 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋