i am 14 going to be 15 in december n i go to school i am also a grade higher than im actually supposed to be in, so ii do what i have to do but it seems like my mom has a problem with me. she will find one little reason to get mad and blow it up into a big thing. i dont know wut to do anymore so if anyone has some advice i thank you!
2006-10-11 19:00:05 · 14 answers · asked by youngster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Consider setting up a regular meeting time once a month to talk about household issues and the relationship. Talk about what's working and what you would like to improve.
Or just ask her if you can talk with her sometime, and then let her know how you feel. Ask her if she has any ideas on how you two can get along better.
You sound intelligent and mature, and this is a wise question . . . I have faith that you will find a way.
2006-10-11 19:03:54 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be different things working here. First, is your Mom trying to keep pushing you to do better and better? Sometimes, this is what a teacher, parent, coach does while they are still responsible for someone and then they become this really praising individual later.
The other possibility is that her anger is not really at you, but, you are an easy target. Maybe, a boss at work or some other adult is bothering her in a situation where she feels she has no outlet.
The best thing to do is to talk to your Mom when she seems calm and tell her how you're feeling.
2006-10-11 19:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by iuneedscoachknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times being a parent isn't as easy as kids think it is. I have a great relationship with all 3 of my kids and when people ask them how come they talk to me about most things a kid can't tell their parents they don't even think about their answer. When they need me to be a friend they tell me right up front they just need a friend & that is what I become. Other wise I'm mom. Parents tend to forget what it's like to be a kid and it's easier for them to talk to a friend about things. Take your mom out for ice cream and ask her if ya'll can be friends and just chat. Then talk to her like such. If it fails then remind her you really need a friend you can talk to & wished it was her. My two older kids call me their best friend. It hurts their dad but then I'm the one that raised them on my own too and so far they've made good choices in their lives.
2006-10-11 19:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some moms are just that way, they are afraid in todays world that something is going to happen to you. Is there anything else going on in her life that she is stressed about? She may also be upset because she knows you will be leaving home soon and she doesn't know how to deal with it. Offer to go to the mall with her and have a girls day. If this doesn't work talk to her, like two adults. Tell her you love her but you are really worried that your relationship with her isn't where it should be and you want to work with her to make it better. Hope this helps:-)
2006-10-11 19:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by stephaniencurtis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her, you are 14 so you have to listen to her. I know it sucks but I was 14, well 8 years ago I was 14. I never really listened to my parents and they always blew up. When I did listen, they did not. Since you live under their roof, you need to do what they say. They should know what is best. I have a lot of life lessons, I can share with people to help them in the teenage years. I volunteer with kids to make sure they do not make the same mistakes as I do.
2006-10-11 19:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch your mom by herself and talk to her, one on one, perhaps it has nothing to do with you, maybe she has something going on that you don't know about and you are the only person you she can vent towards. Talk to your mom, find out what you can do to ease her stress or the tension between the two of you. I know it may hurt your feelings at time, but when she listening, tell her you Lover her, even while she's mad.
2006-10-11 19:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Kymmie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what she tells you when she tells you to do it and don't roll yours eyes or smart back-you will see- the older you get the smarter she gets- is she majorly stressed out about something going on in her life? That would make her over react- there may be more going on than you know about-take care and try to keep your calm-and let her vent- and take a good look at yourself and ask yourself it you are trying to irritate her- if so= don't- D
2006-10-11 19:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do my best to communciate openly with her. Maybe you should sit down and ask her what she expects of you (so not to make her upset and such). Communicate her feelings too. Try to keep it honest and within reason.
Also, try to be aware of how you are communicating with her. Is she getting mad because you did something she thinks is a big reason but you think is an insignificant reason?
2006-10-11 19:02:53 · answer #8 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i never realy got along with my mom sor my step day coz of my mom soo i knind of know what u are talk ing about all u got to do is ask her to go do things with u like shop or go on a drive things will work there ways out help out around the house more and get things done when they need to be done i still go t problons with my mom and step dad all they do is nag about stupid things and it gets old fast u just go t to put ur self out there and help out more and try to do things with her it will make her fell wanted
2006-10-11 19:04:06 · answer #9 · answered by hotchick_8587 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really didn't tell us any details . - i can only tell you -at one time i was 14 . and i was so smart or so i thought . when we get older ,our thinking changes. now i see that my parents only were trying to help me . our parents can save us a lot of hurt .maybe your mother knows - what i do now . that the little things . can change your life . and not all ways for the better .sweet heart . be very careful what you do .
2006-10-11 19:20:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋