Why do we still need that piece of paper telling us we are bound together & committed when after all these yrs t/gether, mortgage, kids etc. Do we do it because it's socially more accepted? People will ask why are we bothering? Do we just want presents? Do I just want it for the ring? He is really definate that we should do it for the kids & to publicly declare our love to the world. I do love him & will be with him forever, do I say yes because he wants this or do I say no because I'm not convinced we need it?
2006-10-11 18:49:53 · 14 answers · asked by trcyrdley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dennis Miller said it best... Yeah, a marriage license is just a piece of paper.
So is money.
That license protects your kids, protects what is yours as a couple, and shows the kids that you're not just playing with their lives. Do it because it means something to him, you can even put a "no gifts, please" request on the invitations if you want to make it clear that you're not getting married for stuff.
2006-10-11 18:56:46 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off if you have been shacking together for 9 years why not do it the legal way and the right way according to God's way. What you are doing is not pleasing in God's eyesight. If you lived together that long you may as well had been married. What kind of example is that setting for your kids knowing that mommy and daddy are living together but not married. Sweetheart it only right to marry him.
2006-10-11 19:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say YES because it is your PROTECTION,and for the same reason ...for your kid's.Without that piece of paper..if something happens to HIM,or YOU.life will be HORRIBLE.That paper will save the life,the two of you have spent all these years building together.Don't take a chance.Get the PAPER.I'm telling you the truth..I have lived a long time and in that time I have seen a lot of families get to urn apart because they weren't Legal-y MARRIED.Just do it.
2006-10-11 19:04:53 · answer #3 · answered by Wishee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get married. It will be better for the kids. If the piece of paper doesn't matter, then it won't hurt you to get it. Yes, do it for him also. He wants this, why not give it to him.
You are second guessing yourself too much, I do that too. If you were doing it for the presents, you wouldn't be asking yourself the question.
Get married! you love him! You will be so glad you did! Your Children will love you for it now, and especially when they get older.
2006-10-11 19:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be committed outside of marriage, however, marriage is still important. Legally, it is a safer choice when it comes to your kids and your belongings. For your husband, it is emotional. He wants a public declaration of love....a way to finalize your committment. Marriage is the answer.
If you are willing to finalize your committment, and you think it is the right choice, then go for it!
Good Luck!
2006-10-11 19:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not just a paper. Marriage also protects you and your kids legally whatever might happen. You can get married without having anyone know about it.
2006-10-11 18:52:54 · answer #6 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It's not just a piece of paper.
Why are you even fighting it?
Are you afraid to commit legally and under God? Still want your way out, just in case?
You should do it to make it LEGAL, and binding, and under God, and legit, and REAL, and for your kids, for each other, for security, for loyalty, for trust, for responsibility, for finances, for retirement, for health, for the future, for your love, for your morality.
You are very lucky to have a man like this who wants to make it REAL.
2006-10-11 18:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i feel sorry for ur kids.how did u posibly gave birht to ur 3 kids without even marrying.if its not for u its for ur kids u have to amrry that sweet guy who waited so long for that thing called marriage.its a bond of lovers.jus marry him and see how u feel.it will be pretty gud.
2006-10-11 21:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, the paperwork is important, especially when it comes to your kids. if anything happened to you today or tomorrow, your kids, your properties and everything else will be up in the air.....with that paperwork....your husband/wife automatically handles it. and what about benefits........
i dont know, good luck with what u decide
2006-10-11 18:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You don't need it, marriage is drilled into your head by society. I commend you for realizing that marriage is only a formality and not necessary for happiness or a good relationship.
2006-10-11 18:52:24 · answer #10 · answered by mike 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋