Okay, just today I was going to this daycare for kids to pick up my cousin. And when we got there I overheard one of the daycare counselors or workers talking about one of the kid's mom and dad died in some car accident or something. I didn't hear the rest of the conversation as I had to leave after picking up my cousin. Seriously, I'm not making this up. I was pondering the thought in the car. How do you tell a kid his parents died. I mean it really made me depressed and sad for him. I almost got tearful over it. Some kids don't understand death. It's just really sad man.
2006-10-11 18:35:57 · 9 answers · asked by micah09 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Way too many thinks that kids are too young to understand. In fact they understand more than we think, but they have their own way of putting it to words and dealing with it. I've heard a mother tell her child that "daddy went to heaven" and I've seen her child wait for a airplane to bring daddy back. It was painful. If she had only told her child that daddy had died then the child could have dealt with it instead of waiting for the impossible.
When children are told the truth they will take in what they can understand and then leave the rest for later when it's more understandable for them. We have always told our children the truth about life and death and they have never had any problems because of that.
2006-10-11 18:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by *duh* 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Well for a start I think the job should be done by a person close to the child. The only way to tell a child is to be straight forward and explain what happened, of course leaving out anything that may be too hard for them to understand. But they do need to know the truth so as not to have any false ideas about where their parents are. If they are religious then it could be explained to them according to what religion they may believe in. But I think telling lies in the long run only makes problems later.
2006-10-11 18:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
First answerer - do you no longer have a clear out? i'm guessing you have in no way misplaced every person you enjoyed, i'm somewhat useful in case you will experienced grief you does no longer be *hahaha* joking approximately it. Very irrelevant, and not in the slightest bit humorous. unwell, in fact. besides sorry, to get to the respond. have you ever spoken on your mothers and dads approximately this? i'd in basic terms think of the government had spoken to the adults first and had them tell the babies, besides the undeniable fact that it might remember on the region i assume and the place all and sundry became on the time. they'd have talked to the older youngsters first, informed them right now and sympathetically and had them tell the extra youthful ones, or they'd have secure all of them in jointly. by the age of four there is not any could sugarcoat death, so i'm useful even the youngest would be conscious of what rather took place, yet how precisely they have been informed i could no longer say. i'd ask your mothers and dads or the 15 year previous, consistent with probability in some extra months whilst the soreness isn't so uncooked and that they are extra beneficial equipt to communicate approximately it. i'm very sorry to your and their loss.
2016-12-26 17:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by gerda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a job for a professional child psychologist, not a lay person. It depends on the age and maturity of the child and the circumstances of the parents' deaths. It is always a tragic situation that happens far too often.
2006-10-11 18:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say it would be best to have a close family member, clergy, and/or counselor tell the child in terms appropriate to the child's age and maturity and as thoughtfully and gently as you can. I guess there's no easy way, just with as much compassion as you can tell the child.
2006-10-11 18:43:21 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. US of A, Baby! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No kid understands death untill it touches them. The kids next of kin would have to come get him and the only way to tell them is straight up. Man, thanks for the sad story.
2006-10-11 18:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jim 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the most used way to tell a young child it that daddy/mommy went to heaven with God...
2006-10-11 19:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since they are not understand, you can tell them what is really happening........they will know it while grow up
or like fairy tale say,,, the loved one takes their place among the star,
2006-10-11 18:45:14 · answer #8 · answered by Henry W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"you`ll be on the orphans picnic this year"
2006-10-11 18:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by salforddude 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋