but he was only 3 hours away and now he is 9 hours away and our anniv is tomorrow and said he could not be here and he would call me in a couple days and said he loves me- i was not aware of any problems in or marriage
2006-10-11 18:33:49 · 21 answers · asked by kdkc06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He didn't leave to get his head straightened out. He left to have a fling. The question is, are you going to take him back when he's done playing around?
2006-10-11 18:37:50 · answer #1 · answered by SLWrites 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I read your previous questions. You need to be a little more honest with your self. Just a couple months ago you were seeing someone else. Although it didn't work out there was a reason why this happened. There are problems in your marriage.
The gypsy type job your husband has for a start. I had a friend who had the same occupation but she traveled with her husband.
He is on the road and gone for who knows how long at a time. Figure out if this is really OK for you two and if any thing more conducive can be done.
Sounds like as long as he is working where he is working you'll always be waiting for him to "get his head on straight" and he'll be home when it suits him.
2006-10-11 19:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to be the one to put this into your head but it sounds like the problem isn't your marriage but with his heart. Sounds to me like he may have another relationship and is confused as to where he wants to be. Some people run off suddenly with the other person then realize what they had back home was what they really wanted. For example I remember getting a call that my father ran off with another woman to Tennessee!(from NY) Half way there he realized he couldn't do it. He still loved his wife(my step mother) They are now back together and doing fine. If there were no problems or big issues in your marriage then it seems possible this is what is happening with your husband. Ask your husband what he is confused about or if he met someone else. Don't ask in an accusing mannor or he will get defensive and may not give you the truth.
2006-10-11 18:44:48 · answer #3 · answered by Laura R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that he might really need to get his head straight or he just didnt want to lie to you on your anniversary. Then again he might have gone on a trip with his buddies, but then he would be lying to you again. The worse case scenario, WHICH I HOPE ISNT THE REASON, he might be with another "person". Like i said hopefully not. Also dont bring anything up about cheating if there is no evidence. This is just a few suggestion on what might be going on. But like I said before, dont escalate anything if not necessary. Hopefully he just needs some time away, and good luck with you marriage.
2006-10-11 18:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by Viper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer = something is up- or someone- get counseling asap- from a pastor of yours- you need the support= this is rough- he may be trying to decide between you and someone else- no telling- sorry to hear it= what is 9 hours away- he does not need that much distance to think-he has some explaining to do= try to stay calm and not beg when he calls-the proof is in more than what he says-love you- it is what he does- take care- D
2006-10-11 18:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has girlfriend in other town? He can't just left his wife wondering where he went! Call 2 days later is not acceptable!! That is just not fair! When he come back, you really have to have sit down talk with him and ask him what is going on. What was so important than calling his wife to let her know where he is and missed anniversary??
2006-10-11 18:39:44 · answer #6 · answered by sunflower222 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is giving you a line of bull****. Get his head straight? What? If you have to wrack your brains out trying to figure out what YOU did wrong, then the answer is obvious. YOU didn't do anything wrong. If he wanted to get his head straight, he could have barricaded himself in a room or gone for a walk or a jog.
I feel for you. I really do. Just don't go beating yourself up over what he had done. If he comes back, listen to him, but don't give in by taking any of the blame.
2006-10-11 18:46:56 · answer #7 · answered by Call Me Babs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too upset that you didn't see this coming. That's a common complaint. When men NEED to get away, they are really hurting and don't know where to turn. My best advice is to just support him, don't blame him, don't bring up the missed anniversary, put that aside. He is in trouble and if you come across as the bitchy wife who has her own complaints, you'll just drive him further away. When he's ready, he'll call, not before. And you need to support this.
2006-10-11 18:39:38 · answer #8 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why didn't he explain to you what is bothering him? If you have a good marriage up till the time he left, then I would wonder what else is going on with him. Could it be someone else? And if it's your Anniversary and he is going to call you and not be there, I would be wondering what is going on.
2006-10-11 19:11:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been there ,done this . one time my ex husband went after bread . and came home 3 days later . one time he got on an airplane and went to Arizona for a week / and its all ways the same thing . i love you . but -i need time for this or that . its a bunch of bull . you can bet your but . there is more to it . then just -left to get his head straighted out .
2006-10-11 18:50:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋