The last guy was her college professor 3 years ago. Our marraige has been rocky at times. She is very much the controlling type. Our sex life was not good during these times but her bad moods and demeaning attitude towards me was a real turn off. I also wonder if she's telling me the whole truth.
2006-10-11 18:26:42 · 39 answers · asked by tm v 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't tell you what to do, but I believe that if someone is capable of doing something once, than they can definately do it again! --
2006-10-11 18:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by IWantToKnow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would bet if she said it happened 2 times she is lying that it was only a kiss....i would put money on it that a lot more happend..."she is very much the controlling type,...bad moods and demeaning attitude towards me" I have a question for you..HOW COULD YOU BE DUMB ENOUGH TO MARRY SOMEONE LIKE THAT, DONT YOU HAVE ANY RESPECT FOR YOURSELF??? well i guess you dont and now you are paying the price...when you go to get married the second time pay a little more attention to how she treats you and others.....and make a better pick
another thing if you think you can work it out..sit her a ss down and TELL her how it is..grow a pair of balls and put her in her place...If you cant be a real man than she will walk all over you....good luck and dont take any of her shi t or any excuses if she tries to bring in other things say no this isnt about me its about what YOU DID.
2006-10-11 18:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by camden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see one cockroach then there are probably many more hiding! She's not telling you the whole truth and I know because I've done a little lying of my own to decrease the guilt. She did tell you though and that should count for something. You just now need to make the decision of whether or not you still love her and if you can get your heart and mind around what she's done. If you're going to stay in the marriage then you need to let it go and start fresh. Forgive her and learn from the signs and signals you saw the last time to protect you from it in the future. If you don't think you can forgive her then move on with your life because your relationship will only get worse if you can't let it go.
2006-10-11 19:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she wanted to see your reaction. I think from the sounds of it (but her bad moods and demeaning attitude towards me was a real turn off) says alot about the relationship. It sounds like both of you need to have a talk and no one should have a demeaning attitude toward the other if this is going to work. Try talking and be sure you both are listening too to what is really being said.
2006-10-11 18:36:20 · answer #4 · answered by The_know_it_all 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
damn... coming from a guy that believes his wife to be faithful, that just hurts... honestly though, a kiss isn't as much as you might make it out to be... still, she shouldn't have kissed more than one guy before realizing what a mistake she made... i kissed one random girl at a bar right before i was married two years ago, but i regretted it since and haven't done it again... every marriage is rocky at times, but that just is part of a long-term relationship... man, if you don't have kids, it might be time to start thinking of a new relationship... college professor is messed up, that's a bad sign.. think about the next twenty or thirty years of your life and ask yourself is she will make you happy during that time? if not, then **** it, it's time to move on
ps. by the way, you have a RIGHT to know everything. you ARE her husband, and if she doesn't want to be with you forever then forget it...
2006-10-11 18:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by misterlyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you have a decision to make. This is the other side of wife abuse. this is still spousal abuse although not physical both mental and emotional. She has admitted to kissing 2 men during your marriage what I wonder is why she waited 3 years to tell you? Its only a guess but I am willing to bet shes done more. You need to decide if you can forgive her and continue in a bad relationship or maybe try a trial separation until you can both talk to a counsellor about why this happened. It has to be your decision and I wish you a lot of luck.
2006-10-11 18:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by tinywolf2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is all the information you have, its not enough. There's nothing to decide. 2 Kisses in 3 years. What kind of kisses?
I've kissed my mother in law more times than that, just as a greeting, thrown in some hugs. Maybe it was a Christmas party. New Years....... but then again maybe kisses is a polite word for.... like I said, not enough information to go and do what ever your thinking about. I do think you have other issues that you mentioned, that do need to be dealt with though.
2006-10-11 18:34:16 · answer #7 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep loving her, but you're going to have be stronger with her because what you have here is her emerging as the tyrant in the home. These reports of kissing are ways of making you angry and throwing you more out of control, and into the type of man that many people today like to judge, especially feminists.
The more she does this, however, the calmer you need to become. I don't think I would have sex with this woman as long as she has done wrong and has not apologized for being rude and controlling.
2006-10-11 18:33:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like someone I know. Being in a bad mood is one thing, but you should not have to stand for being demeaned. Under other circumstances, you might have had to sit down with her and ask if she wants to end the marriage. But considering she is the one that seems to want to do the hurting, ask your self. What do you want? Then tell her this is how is going to be from now on if you want to save this marriage.
Sorry but the fact that she even told you about the kisses unless you insisted on knowing, gives a bad vipe. Like she trying to hurt you.
2006-10-11 18:39:56 · answer #9 · answered by carabela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 06:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious to me that she is not meeting her expectations from you, be it love, feelings or conversations..Over these many years she must have tried but failed.
The very fact that she is TELLING YOU what she is doing is only to provoke you to understand her. If she has other intentiions she need not have told you at all. She could have gone about as she desired, leaving you out in the cold.
But, she didnot . To me it would look that she still loves you. Needs you. Perhaps you are too naive to understand her. take off your coloured glasses. She her in true light. Yiou will be able to judge her better.
By the way, I sincerely hope you didnot do the acts that you say she is doing. If not you have a weak case , friend.
2006-10-11 18:34:07 · answer #11 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋