I really have no reason to, but i hear stories all the time about it happening, and the other person had no clue. I know other woman who have said the same about there men, but really, is this normal?
2006-10-11 18:20:03 · 16 answers · asked by MiZmeL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It happened to me. My ex was gay. I did not know it. He was in the army. Too much time in the field might have changed him. Maybe he was that way all along. I did not see it. He was hulky looking guy. I would never have guessed. Anyway, I found out. It was such a blow to me. I was in a mental hospital for three months. I found out by catching him in the act. I was sick a long time. Thank goodness that is all over and I have a guy that respects me. There was a funny thing that happened that should have given it away. One night, a friend of his was over the house and we decided to go to get some beer. It was snowing outside, my husband opens the car door for his friend and tucks him into the back seat with a large throw I had in the car. I was standing in the cold shivering. Should have been a sign, but I was too young and naive.
2006-10-11 18:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Plenty of men are on the down low and not just black men as portrayed in the media. I have gay male relatives and they sleep with married men all the time and their wives don't know. I think it's way more prevalent than is known. If I did have suspicions of this nature, I would do everything I could to find out. Your life could be at stake. Also, my relatives said that the married men are usually the "bottoms" if you know what I mean. This is very dangerous.
2006-10-12 01:29:56 · answer #2 · answered by Veronique 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought that about my husband for a while. Haha. He went through a phase where every time he talked he had his wrist bent, talking with the wave of his hand. (I'm not explaining that right, but hopefully you get the picture-- haha) And he does seem to enjoy hanging out with his buddies more than me, whenever he was drunk he'd dry hump his buddies and they'd do the same... but then, he started working a real job, stopped hanging out with them and no longer got drunk and all that stopped... haha... but yeah, I've heard stories. I think there's probably always a sign. Most of these women whose husbands were gay had husbands who hung out with mostly gay men (which most of heterosexual men are scared of) and they either were really too into themselves (metro-sexual-ish) and/or had the gay talk, just girly period! Like, they had the signs but didn't catch on. Nobody ever sees the signs until after the tragedy!
2006-10-12 01:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by sam 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So what if he is? What's the worse thing that could happen? He comes out of the closet, sodomizes a man in a sordid affair, and then, divorces you destroying your life and your family. That's not so bad, is it? End of the world? The Apocalypse? No... just a failed relationship in which you had little control. If he's gay, you can do little to prevent his sexual awakening. You should enjoy the time you share, here and now.
2006-10-12 01:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by odysseus2i 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's probably more prevalent than people know, and you'll never find out because so much of this activity is in the closet. If you don't suspect anything from your husband, don't go looking for trouble and falsely blame him. That's just the thing to throw him into another man's arms.
2006-10-12 01:22:54 · answer #5 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's totally normal to fear losing your lover/companion, we all do a little bit.
Maybe because there is so much openness and acceptance going on now about gay relationships, that now we fear losing our loved one to even their same sex :(
Just think of this: we all do a male and female rolls now (who pays the bills, head of the household,etc). Maybe the fear is coming in this way, because your husband feels so comfortable in your marriage, he is able to show is femininity.
2006-10-12 01:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by somenameijustthoughtof 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah i think about it but i dont worry. i just tell myself in this day and age all men are bi.
the rule goes the same as for other women, dont cheat on me with a guy neither. who cares about the rest. just be faithful means guy or gal. ya know.
2006-10-12 01:50:36 · answer #7 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow.. that sucks..
but in reallity.. I as more and more years go by you might start to wonder what it's like to be with your same sex... it's a curiosity..
being gay.. wow... that'd be a huge identity crisis..
being curious, that's normal..
men and women are both beautiful... everyone knows it, few admit it
2006-10-12 01:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, i'm a man and my husband had better be gay or he's been lying to me from day one!
2006-10-12 01:22:20 · answer #9 · answered by Jim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha! I don't worry about my boyfriend. But, I have heard quite a few stories about that happening.
2006-10-12 01:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋