Ok there's this guy i like that i've been told likes me back. well me and him were goin good and all goin slow tryin to get to know each other when he goes off and hooks up with another guy. the guy is closer to him at the moment thats one reason i can think he might be with him. i'm plannin to transfer to his college next semester. and if they're still together i don't think i can put up with the 2 of them being together. i've been told this guy can't stay with a guy for a very long time also. and i don't want to see the guy i like hurt. he's by far the total package cute, funny, smart, sweet, and adorable. what are some for suggestions for getting him away from this one guy and getting him for myself. if it helps any i'm good friends with one of his close friends.
2006-10-11 18:12:18 · 12 answers · asked by Alex 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
no the cheating guy is not the guy i like. its the guy i like's bf. also i'm not movin cause of him i have been plannin on goin to that school. i met him while visiting the school.
2006-10-11 18:28:57 · update #1
k i doubt its cause he likes this guy more when his friend is still tellin me he likes me. and when i see him still he smiles at me and hints at flirting. and he is not obsessed with himself.
2006-10-11 18:43:28 · update #2
what part of i'm not moving to that school because of him do you not understand. i've been planning on going there for a while now.
2006-10-12 08:25:25 · update #3
I would say be yourself, be a good friend. Also, let him know that you are interested, but don't really force the fact on him. Also, don't focus only on him, he may stay with his current guy for a while, so keep your own options open.
2006-10-11 18:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure you heard the term “run forest run”? Well, that’s what I think you should do with this guy. If he had any feeling for you he would not have left you for this guy, close to him or not. He is with this guy because he cares for him more then you, and you will be the one to get hurt in the end…
He may be as you say—the total package cute, funny, sweet, and adorable. However, people with those qualities usually are self-indulgent. Only wishing to appease themselves rather then others around them. Their relationship usually is short and forthcoming.
My suggestion to you is to move on and find some one else that has better qualities then funny, cute, and adorable.
2006-10-11 18:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by poppop 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The best way to handle this sitttuation is to stand back and be a friend to him. DO NOT be the behrer of bad news of his bf cheating on him. When there is conflicted interest such as this, it could spark serious controversy and backfire in your face resulting in him hateing you. Remember, you are the new guy and lack the credability the cheater has allready established. by just being available to him when he needs the attention. After you have established a !strong! friend relationship of support and fun, you would be in a much better possition to aproach him on the matter.
2006-10-12 07:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by David B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you pushing yourself to his face? If he really want to be with the other guy, and you transfer yourself to his school to be close to him, dont you think that will make the situation wierd once if you or him lose interested ? Seem to me, you are doing anything to revlove around him. Do you think he is doing the same for you? you really have to look into yourself thru your brain not your heart. You should find time to sit down with him and ask him point blank about where you are standing in this relationship to avoid future heartache if you guys are not on the same level ground. Goodluck.
2006-10-11 19:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like they are together and while he doesn't have a problem playing the field (you), he's not really interested in doing more than that.
So you have to ask yourself if you deserve more than to be someones afterthought or do you want someone who's whole package isn't past the freshness date.
In other words, move on to someone who actually cares about you as much as you care about them. That''s not that guy. Good luck to you.
2006-10-12 01:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First question. If you considered yourself to be in a serious relationship, are you not afraid of the "once a cheater, always a cheater" theory? If he's messing around on you now, why do you think it would change just because you transfer to his school? I'd give some serious thought to moving on, my friend--hate to say it, but maybe he doesn't deserve you!
2006-10-11 18:12:59 · answer #6 · answered by pocket68rocket 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One way to find out if he really likes you is to find yourself a B/F and so that he doesnt have you by the balls, it doesnt have to be a long term thing, or a deep relationship, that will let him know that if he wants you then he better move in fast, man you college come first before relationships. let him chase you not you chase him goodluck
2006-10-12 00:35:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a nice guy. So so you. So don't just hang around him ... turn the tables a little bit, start hanging out with other guys yourself.
Might help him realize how you feel?
2006-10-11 18:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by Luis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at this point, you really can't do anything. maybe you should consider your reasons for moving to the guy's college. are you moving because of him, or for intellectual purposes? coz if you're moving for intellectual purposes, i'm sure you'll be able to cope with having to see them there. you'd be preoccupied with the academe. but if you're moving to be closer to him, then you shouldn't move at all. because it would be very hard for you. also, i think you should just be honest with the guy. tell him about the rumors concerning the other guy. just don't make it seem like you're badmouthing the other guy. make it seem like you're not expecting him to listen to you, nor are you expecting him to return your feelings for him. just make it seem like a cautionary advice. g'luck!
2006-10-11 18:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait it out. Be his friend untill he realises how great you are. Sometimes, people like that can be all mixed up and it takes some time for them to realise what is in front of them.
Be cool, remember how great you are, be confident. If it's meant to be, he will come to you.
2006-10-11 22:42:01 · answer #10 · answered by Two Spirited 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋