I am pregnant, in an ustable relationship and i am moving to another town and starting a new job on Monday! i want to keep the baby although i am not sure if it is the best decision considering the circumstances. i am 20 years old and feel i am responsible enough to be a caring parent............... any advice?
2006-10-11 17:54:49 · 15 answers · asked by TSJ 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
first get yahoo messenger so we can chat.
second ABORTION is not the way to go...you will be a baby killer if you have one. Look up abort73.com and look at the pictures of the aborted babies, I think they show a six week old aborted baby...it is human and you will be a killer in Gods eyes and your own...deep down.
Do you know what the sex is?
Please email me...im 26 and have a 21 month old.
2006-10-11 17:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Have the child. It doesn't matter if the man wants the kid or not. There are pleanty of single moms out there. And if the man breaks up with you, trust me, he was not meant for you then. And you will find a better man that will care. But if he does take in the child, then it should help you relation. A child is always a gift from God, no matter the circumstancers.
Since you are still not deep into your pregnancy, I think it will be ok if you move. Just have people help you so you don't do so much work and tire yourself out. In your job, by the time you will have the baby, they should be ok in letting you go in maternal, i forgot the other word, but yeah, on maternal vacations lets say.
P.S. Don't make your baby another example of abortion and why its bad. I f you decide you don't want the child now, then put it up for adoption. Just in case you ever change your mind. With an abortion there will be no going back. There is no resurecting the dead. So have the child, but if you don't feel ready, give it to a couple that does feel ready. Adoption is always safe. You can even keep in touch with the child if that is what you wish. And they will give the baby to a couple that won't mind the connection. So think about it. You have to decide for a life apart from yours.
2006-10-11 18:08:36 · answer #2 · answered by godfathermock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to make a decision right now.
Make your move, get settled in your new job and then make your decision. There are alternatives to abortion -- there is a very long list of couples who want to adopt, so your baby could go to a good home if you were not able to care for him or her.
If you feel you are responsible enough to be a caring parent, would you be able to afford to be one? If you are just starting a new job, it might be difficult to get maternity leave after only a few months on the job. But you are the only one who can make that decision.
Is there a trusted friend or family member you can talk to? Your parents? A pastor?
What does the father of the child say? He will still be liable for child support, even if you are not married, but that might mean co-parenting and if the relationship is unstable now, that might not be such a good idea.
You really do need to talk to someone close, and take your time in making a decision.
Good luck to you.
2006-10-11 18:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby killer my ass its her body not yours!!!
Okay you have the world at your feet at the moment.. You need to take some time out to think about what you want, its your life.
You can work and carry a baby at the same time, women do it everyday i did till i was 7 months when i gave up work. You can still move to another town but if your going by plane see your doctor. you say your in an unstable relationship that's fine,you can do it by yourself i did with two children. but you need to think can you do it by yourself and only you can decide whats best for you, not anyone else. I wish you all the best!!
2006-10-11 18:17:34 · answer #4 · answered by aussiesun68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time and think about it. You're only 6 weeks so you have time. Should you decide to keep the baby, then I'm sure you'll be a fine parent. But if you decide you're not ready for such a commitment, then there are all kinds of couples out there with all kinds of love to give. Good luck with your decision.
2006-10-11 18:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a good relationship with your family? Or lots of friends who will give you the support you need emotionally?
I'm afraid that this is a decision you need to make for yourself. Personally, I don't think you should try to "save" the relationship - if you were already going to leave, you should. And you probably need to decide what you are going to do - before you tell the guy, if you decide to tell the guy. (Or don't tell him at all.)
If you want, talk to Planned Parenthood (NO, they don't PUSH anything, but will talk about all your options - including adoption, open adoption, etc.)
Best of luck to you. Think about it. And don't let Yahoo! Answers decide for you.
2006-10-11 18:02:29 · answer #6 · answered by tigglys 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello...TSJ (:
Sweet one, you are pregnant for a good reson. It sounds like that you will be responsible and be a great mother.My heart goes out to you.
Does the father know yet? Do you have parents that can help? His or Yours? Don't be afarid to ask for help.
My first husband left me because he couldn't take my baby daughters sickness. He didn't even want to hold her. I said to him grow up or get out. I was 19. Well, he got out alright and left us for ever. I never saw or heard from him ever again.
I raised my very, very sick daughter for six years all by myself before I ever married again. I had to have one full time job and two part time jobs to just barely make it every month for six long years. It was tough, really tough. I had no help from anyone. I only had myself to depend on and that was it. It was up to me and I took that responsibality extremely serious. My sweet baby did not ask to be born... and every time I looked at my baby's smile on her face it gave me strength. I was fearless, and I knew we were being taken care by God. TSJ, you are not alone, but just know it will not be easy, unless you have a great job and make some really good money?
I also encourage for you to go to college as soon as you can get on your feet. You can do this. I encourage you 100 percent not to worry about anything. Take one day at a time. Don't worry about yesterday or tomorrow just take each day as it comes. Things have a away of working out. Please take care of you and your baby. Some people have given you some good answers to help you. Let us all know how you are doing okay. You will be in my prayers. God is blessing you. Please see his blessings to you. Have a nice day
and remember to love yourself and love God. He won't let you down.
Sincerely, J.
2006-10-11 18:36:23 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are responsible enough to care for the baby make him pay child support. Good Luck.
2006-10-11 17:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Teacher 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 years old and a single mother to a 3 month old son.. More power to you if you want to take this on.. My biggest suggestion is to try to get on your state's medical insurance (just until you get on your new company's insurance).. Also, if you go to WIC they can set you up with resource classes to get you started.. Even your local Department Of Human Services can be a resource to find different classes/counceling to help you.. Its a great experience.. Also, make a lot of friends that will love to watch the little one so you can have your life too..
2006-10-11 17:59:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ash 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you made the bst choice by keeping the baby . There will be difficult moments for you ad the Baby but just hang on , for he or she will look after you when you will grow older ! Be happy to have one !! CALL HER JASMINE
2006-10-11 18:25:38 · answer #10 · answered by kemu_pips 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋