my husband and I were seperated but still in love and had plans to try and work things out when I went to his apartment one day after work to find another woman naked standing in the living room and found him laying in his bed naked. He says they didnt have intercourse and that he has never cheated.
2006-10-11 17:53:19 · 62 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey wipe out the checking and savings go get the best SHARK lawyer you can find and drag his butt through the dirt. You caught him with his pants down ! Spank him hard and throw him to the curb like a cheep shirt. Ugh! caught in the act! That frigin freak! Separated only means you yake a time out to think,,,not to sc rew other people while you decide. That must of hurt, I;m sorry you seen it. Hurt back and then find a nice life that you deserve.
2006-10-11 17:59:53 · answer #1 · answered by Beamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be considered cheating. You are still married, and had plans to try to work things out. He is not on the same page as you with your marriage, kick his butt to the curb. And don't let him try to act like it was innocent either, and don't believe him when his says they didn't sleep together, why else would they both have been naked and him in the bed??? Im sorry that you have to go through this. But you need to walk away and work on putting your life back together for yourself.
2006-10-11 17:58:25 · answer #2 · answered by MiZmeL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband was not cheating since you had seperated. Where you or are you not involve with someone during your seperation. The problem is that you found him with another woman (both naked) and cant bear it. Gal forget it and work things out with him immediately. Otherwise you are gonna see more gals in his place. Remember he has sexual and emotional needs as well as you do. Are you prepared to meet his sexual and emotional needs during separation. Work things out. The sooner the better.
2006-10-11 19:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by V-man 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie just because he says nothing happened doesn't mean that it didn't happen. I mean, get real there was a naked woman standing in your husband's livingroom. Where exactly was she sleeping? Was the couch made up for her? Did it look like she'd slept on it?
I would think that those two were bumping uglies. If you are asking this type of question then you must feel like that is what he was doing. What does your gut tell you? Trust your gut instincts on this one and good luck to you.
2006-10-11 18:26:05 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you went to his apartment and there was another naked girl there after you had plans to work things out, then it might not be worth working out. Maybe he didnt cheat but could have had sex with her. You werent actually together but you did have plans to work things out. Maybe he isnt that committed. If not then you deserve better. Everyone deserves a faithful person to spend thier live with.
2006-10-11 17:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you SERIOUS, Darla? Well let me ask you this, If this scenario is not cheating, then it's okay - right? So does this mean that he can continue to lay in the bed NAKED while some NAKED SKANK strolls about his place? As long as they don't have sex, right???!!!! Okay - Excuse me - I'm directing my annoyance at you. What I mean to say is....Most men don't have a naked girl just walking around their place for nothing. If he DIDN'T HIT IT, it's because you interrupted the festivities.
2006-10-11 18:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by Angelface 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I realize people have different morals, but my morals tell me this is cheating. Whether or not he was cheating should not be the issue. The issue is whether or not you are willing to tolerate this behavior. I would not.
If he wanted to get back together with you, and the two of you had plans to get back together, then he would not be in the situation in which you found him. He would not be with another woman. Lose him now, because if you take him back you are saying that you accept this behavior and he will surely repeat it after you are back together.
2006-10-11 19:11:37 · answer #7 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well was his flag pole up or down? Maybe you got there before taps. But clearly, there was intent. People of the opposite sex, at least un-matched adults, do not normally go waltzing around each others apartments, in the nude, without some intent to do what would come naturally!
I think he's lying, don't you?
But hey, you separated from him, didn't you? Yeah it's adultery until the papers are signed!t
2006-10-11 18:00:21 · answer #8 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both are so in love why are you separated? I think there were some problems before and the separation was his idea.....he wants to play the field and if he finds someone better then he will ask for a divorce if not he has kept you dangling on a string. I doubt if he and this girl were practicing an act for cirque de solee so say hasta la vista to him.
2006-10-11 20:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by chuck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is. they could not have possibly been doing anything else. i think you should talk to him and discuss EVERYTHING. be honest. do you still have feelings for him? does he still love you? do you think you should start over or take it from where you left off? if he still does not say that he was having sex/an affair and continues to deny it, then you should tell him it's over because he can't be honest with you. however, if he tells you they were doing something else and actually names that thing, if it seems like a reasonable explanation, think about it. either way, make sure you get all the facts before accepting/rejecting him. good luck!
2006-10-11 20:13:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋