Is it normal to not feel alright that my husband and the woman who works for him seem to be good friends.?

Question

He doesn't have many friends or like to be around people much, and she tells him a lot of her problems-which she might just tell everyone, but I feel uncomfortable with it all.

Answer 1

It is more than alright!!! Would he feel it was alright if it was the other way around? I know the feeling am going thru it right now.

Answer 2

Yeh, I'd say too that it is normal to NOT feel right!
I think in all of us we tend to have some insecurity and it CAN flare up when a woman comes into the "picture".
When you feel uncomfortable, that's your GUT telling you to BE AWARE! I've had that same reaction before!
Yeh, I'd also go with the other opinion I was just reading, ASK your Husband and see what his response is!
You have a right to know, and I'd say it wouldn't be normal if it didn't bother you.

I had the sorta same problem some years back-------- I had more to "go on" when I found out my guy was friends with a co-worker.

This girl was calling here and my Husband at the time was on the phone with her many times when I'd walk in the door from work, and I didn't like the "vibes", either.
Of course, every situation is different, but it turned out in time that this "fleusy", (when I asked around about her, I got my answers), then I found out that she was hitting on him!!!!!!!!!! He was fixing her car HERE, all the while saying they were "just friends" to make it ALL WORSE.
well, the more the girl was around and calling the less I liked it and one night I had asked my guy that when he finished her car, not to be friends with her! I didn't TELL him, I asked him and he told me "NO", that they were just friends! right then I felt sooo alone! I even told him I felt our marriage was threatened,........woman's intuition!

Things then went down hill, but, lady, just beware and keep asking your husband for reassurance, and I'm sure you both will be fine and keep the lines of communication open.

Stay Strong!

Answer 3

If you don't feel comfortable with it, for whatever reason, your husband should respect that and back away a little. Have you told him how you feel about the situation? Keep in mind though, he works with her, which means he will see her all the time. So that means that you need to try to trust him (unless he has given you reason not to). My advice is to tell your husband how you feel about it. Yes, it is normal, alot of woman would feel the same way you do.

Answer 4

OKAYYYYY.....I'm not one to put ALL MEN in the same category, but I know of 3 right now who are having an affair with a woman co-worker. One in particular told his wife flat out, I spend most of my day with her(long work hours), and I get to talk about all my problems, AND SHE LISTENS! That's how it started, and now he's about to leave his wife of 16 years and 2 and 3 year old daughters for this office tramp! What tipped her off, by the way, is the fact that he DOESN'T make friends very often, so his wife started wondering,"What's up with THIS one?"

Answer 5

I think you are right to feel uncomfortable with it. He probably is not doing anything wrong but that friendship could be a danger to your marriage. I would tell him your concerns. And you should know that it is not only ok but it is right to protect your marriage. Things can happen even when people have no intention of letting something like that happen.

Answer 6

It is definitely OK to be uncomfortable - trust your instincts and talk to your husband about your concerns. They might be completely unfounded but don't let it fester. And don't do what I did which is assume it's OK - it ended up ultimately being an affair. While I don't think that's necessarily the case here and your husband deserves to have both male and female friends, trust your instincts and talk with him.

Answer 7

it is perfectly normal to be upset. after all adultry starts this way, people begin to talk about their problems, and become friends. this is exacly how relationships begin.my husband met a girl at work also, i bet it began with them talking about their problems, but in the end it broke up my marraige, and he left with her, and i never knew he even worked with a woman. it destroyed my marriage, caused much pain and hurt.so yes i would be upset, and i would keep my eyes open for changes in my husband.

Answer 8

My personal feeling is that it's not wrong for a woman to have friends of the men in her life. A friendship doesn't have to be sexual, and most women will unload their problems on a willing listener. As long as he's giving you no other reason to be concerned, let it go...............Is he taking care of business at home?........

Answer 9

If he is confiding to you that he has a good friendship with his co-worker it might be that he feels at ease to communicate you this. I understand that you do not feel allright about this and you should, therefore, tell him what you feel. Make sure you communicate this in a logic, calm way.

Answer 10

MY HUSBAND IS THE KIND OF MAN EVER WOMEN SEEMS TO FILL LIKE THEY COULD TALKE TO WHEN WE FIRST GOT MARRIED IT BOTHERED ME I WAS EVE N JEALOUIS BUT THEN I REALIZED HE WASNT DOING ANY THING BUT LISTEN AND TRYING TO BE A FRIEND HE WOULD SAY WELL YUO CAN FIX THAT BY DOING THIS OR HE MIGH TELL THEM I WILL KEEP YOU IN PRAYER THEN ONE DAY I HAD A FRIEND FROM CHURCH TELL ME HOW BLESSED I WAS TO HAVE THE KIND OF MAN THAT I COULD TELL ANTHING TO AND HE WOULD KNOW WHAT TO SYA AND I REALIZED THAT HE S JUST GOOD AT BEING A FRIEND AND THAT THEIR HUSBANDS WERENT GOOD LISTENER S SO I BACK ED OFF BUT THAT DOENST MEAN I PUT MY HEAD IN THE SAND IF I SEE ONE TRING TO FLIRT WITH HIM I DONT WASTE ANT TIME TO TELL THEM THEY ARE TAKING THEIR HEATH INTO THIER OWN HANDS HES MINDAND HE WILL ALWAYS BE SO HANDS OFF HE CAN BE YOUR FRIEND BUT NO MORE !!!