Ok, My husband and I are ttc....?

Question

Last month was our first month trying, and i think the mistake we may have made was that we only had sex the days leading up to and on the day of ovulation and maybe 1 day after that. Now I am not sure if the ovulation calander was accurate cause i heard ovulation times can vary each month. This time around, we had sex 10 out of the 23 in between periods, and we spaced it out up to and including today! I am due for my period on the 13th of october, any thoughts on if it will be successful this time around??

Answer 1

Sounds like you are trying too hard. Having sex by a calender is not all that appealing. Go with the moment knowing you are trying to conceive takes the pressure off. Have fun and go with it. Remember that having a child is not supposed to be work. It should be an expression of love between you and your significant other. Knowing when the ovulation cycle is helps, but don't pressure yourself or your significant other. Relax, it'll happen.

Answer 2

maybe this might help

Probably the most widely held fertility myth is the notion that women always ovulate on Day 14 of their cycle. If this were indeed true, there would be virtually no need for birth control, since couples could simply avoid that one day. And scores of couples desiring a child would simply have intercourse on Day 14, and Bingo, get pregnant.

There are several serious consequences to the Day 14 fallacy:

* Many unplanned pregnancies occur because couples think they are safe for unprotected intercourse on any day but Day 14.
* Many couples who desire to get pregnant actually impede pregnancy by timing intercourse on Day 14, when, in reality, the woman may ovulate either much earlier or later than that one particular day.
* Many diagnostic tests and therapies are performed at an inappropriate time in the woman’s cycle. These include infertility procedures such as post-coital tests and endometrial biopsies, as well as general health procedures such as mammograms and diaphragm fittings.
* If a woman does get pregnant, the doctor’s office will usually utilize a "pregnancy wheel" to determine her due date. But this device assumes that women ovulate on Day 14, and therefore could be off by several weeks, leading physicians to perform diagnostic tests at inappropriate times (e.g. amniocentesis) or even induce labor before the baby is fully developed.


While it is true that a human egg is only viable for 12 to 24 hours, a woman can actually get pregnant from an act of intercourse occurring anytime from about five days prior to ovulation to even occasionally two days after, for a total of about seven days.

The reason for this is that the sperm can survive up to five days inside the woman's reproductive tract, and a woman can release two or more eggs within a 24 hour period.. Hence, for all intents and purposes, a women can get pregnant for about one week per cycle.

Answer 3

Your ovulation can be anywhere between 10 and 17 days after your period starts.. So, my best suggestion would be that you start having marital relations right after your period ends, until about day 21 of your cycle.. I wouldnt over do it though.. I would consider only doing it once a day.. There has been cases where people who have had too much sex have stunted their ability to concieve.. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

My wife and I are trying for our second and the doctor told us to have sex the 12th 14th and 16th day from the start of her period. He said the reason for that is the female egg only lasts 24 hours but sperm can last up to 72 hours inside the uterus so you can cover more of a time frame like that. Those are supposed to be the best days for the egg to drop. Also waiting a day between intercourse gives the testicles more time to produce viable sperm. Not sure if this helps you any but good luck!

Answer 5

My question is "if this is your 1st time trying, how do you know ovulation cycle? You may be over thinking - over working this.
I was married 5 years before I tried to get pregnant. It took almost 2 years. And then I had twin boys.
I would suggest 'just have sex - for the sake of having sex'
Don't make it a job - have fun -stress-free

Answer 6

Ooh, the thirteenth... That's bad carma. You should really talk to your doctor. They also have those fertility tests at grocery stores that tell you when you are most fertile and when you will most likely concieve. That would probably be your best bet. They are in the same aisle as the pregnancy tests.

Another thing to remember is to calm down. A woman can miss her period from over worked nerves. Don't put to much pressure on yourself. If it was meant to be, it will happen.

Answer 7

The best thing you can do is try to follow your ovulation cycle month to month. It is going to take time! It took my husband and I 1 and half years for our first. Be patient and try not to think about it too much. Remember to pee before BDing and tuck a pillow under your hips afterwards. You'll be fine, good luck! Baby dust!

Answer 8

It could take up to 6 months or more of trying to conceive. It took my husband and I a year and a half before we conceived 6 weeks ago.

Answer 9

Sounds like your doing a good job in trying to be successful. For some people it happens easily, not so much for other people. Don't get discouraged though, when its meant to happen it will. Good luck to you!! :)

Answer 10

You will come to know within a couple of days.