My husband has a big tattoo on his shoulder and arm that says J loves S. S is the mother of his daughter that he had when he was 17. He got the tattoo when he was 16/ It really bothers me that he has another womans name on him. He says he will change itbut cant find what he wants.
Than one night when he was drinking he said that he and S promised that they would never remove them.
what am I to think? he says one thing.. but doesn't do it.
BTW he is 32 now.and she also still has her tattoo.But nothing is going on she is married and lives hundreds of miles away.
But why is he holding onto it?
I am hurt by it, that he wouldnt want it covered up.
Am I wrong? what is gong on?
2006-10-11 17:21:24 · 15 answers · asked by loladoreen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I don't think anything is going on. I too had a tattoo with my Ex name in a heart....it really bothered my new wife...of 15 years now but she didn't really say much I just knew that she didn't like it much. I don't really know why it took me so long to go get a "cover up" done but just this summer I did. Not sure what really made me finally do it...but one day I ask her....what would you like me to get....you pick something out and I will do it for you. Well she picked a REALLY nice dragon and it covered everything up perfectly.
Maybe just try to tell him in a non conflicting way that it really does bug you. I hope he gets it changed because after I did that's when my wife told me how much it did bother her....and I cant say I blame her it would really bug me too.
2006-10-11 17:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by oldman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My partner had a tattoo of his ex's initials in a little heart, after a while he promised to have it covered and kept putting it off, so I went on strike, no sex till it was done, he had it done within a few days, lol.
Tell your husband that it bothers you so much, maybe suggest that he contact his ex and ask to be let out of the promise, on both sides. And like you said, the promise was to never remove them, that does not mean you can't cover it up, it will still be there under the new ink. I don't think you are wrong, it would be different if it was of a previous partner that had died rather than one that ended on worse terms.
Good Luck.
2006-10-12 00:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by having_a_blonde_day_lol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not such a big deal. I think that it is the memory of having had a good time with his daughter's mother is not letting him remove the tattoo. Or the fact that it was a cool time of his life when he was that young and he's holding onto those premarital, juvenile memories for this long. You shouldn't be so insecure about it because sometimes people hang on to their tattooes out of sheer laziness rather than some deep meaning and maybe he wants his daughter to know that yes, he did love her mother once. Even though he loves you know.
2006-10-12 01:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any first names that start with the letter "S" that you could get used to? That would be one solution. But other than changing your name, there is not much you can do about it.
Perhaps as a compromise, he would agree to keep it covered up.
2006-10-12 00:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call and find out how much it would cost to change the 's' to an '8'. Load his cracker-as* into the pick-up and drive him to the local tattoo/laundramat and PAY the man to change it.
Or stay hurt.....just do something and stop whining.
2006-10-12 00:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They said that they would never remove them right? Covering up is not removing. Change can be weird for guys. It is the mother of his child and that was his first love. But remember he is with YOU not her.
2006-10-12 13:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by tattooed_te_leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The promise was mad way before he met you and a promis is a prom is. Big deal. If he was seeing some woman or going to strip clibs I would worry but not for that!
2006-10-12 00:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're wrong. If it had been my man he would had changed it before we got married. Hell, he would have change it even before that. The tattoo shouldn't be more important than your feelings. You need to check him and find out what's really going on!
2006-10-12 04:09:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BABYGIRL YOU WERE AWARE OF THIS FROM THE TIME YOU WAS DATING HIM AND IT DIDNT BOTHER YOU YOU WENT AND MARRIED HIM SO WHY PUT UP A FUSS NOW LEAVE IT ALONE IF IT REALLY BOTHERED YOU YOU WOULD OF SPOKE UP SOONER OR PUT THE MARRIAGE ON HOLD UNTIL HE COVERS IT UP IT DOESNT MEAN THAT HE LOVES YOU ANY LESS HE WAS YOUNG AND SHE HAD HIS KID BUT YOUR WITH HIM NOW AND MARRIED YOUR THE ONE WITH PAPERS ON HIM NOT HER IT MAY UPSET YOU TO LOOK AT IT BUT WHAT CAN YOU DO IF HE SAID HE WILL COVER IT HE WILL SOON BUT STOP NAGGING HIM ABOUT IT THAT'S WHY HE HASNT GONE AND DONE IT
2006-10-12 00:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
miss this is simple and you should not worry about it the man loves you more than the ex. maybe the reason why he keeps it is cause it is his child's mother regardless of what you do you can't change the fact that she will always be apart of his life for the child's sake, maybe they had enjoyed that part of there life and would want to remember it......HE STEAL LOVES YOU MORE.
2006-10-12 00:36:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋