if you found out that not too long after you and them split up, they turned gay? This did happen to me a few years back, and for some reason it still bothers me; though I do not know why. And yes I am prepared for the abusive jokes, so bring them on. Ha!
2006-10-11 17:10:47 · 20 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am sorry for how you feel. ((((((((hugs))))))))) for you. it would hurt me if the man I'd been with for so many years left me for another man or another woman. I would never joke about anything like that to anyone. and anyone that does has no heart. they need to realize how it hurts others when they do that. I hope you find someone that is right for you. don't let it get you too far down not all of us are like that. again ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
2006-10-11 17:17:39 · answer #1 · answered by Boo G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a woman another woman would go to another woman only because they feel that they can totally and completely be themselves. But a woman sometimes feels that a man truely doesnt understand them as a woman does with the emotional connection that a woman can share with another woman and be platonic. At that point it can become more than just platonic it can become sexual if you mentally open the doors. If she were to go for another guy, then usually it is because of feelings of betrayl(sp). I suppose the reason it might still bother you might be because of your conscious which tells you that it is not human nature to become gay. If that is not the case, then I would guess that maybe you just had a very close relationship with the person and mentally you are still unable to handle their decision. A possible helpful suggestion that may cure your bothersome ways: You could try taking a card/piece of paper(write all of your emotional feelings and thoughts in it about the person) or picture or anything of value that would symbolize the strings attached to the person and simply watch it burn in the fireplace to mentally or emotionally break off the connection to the past.
2006-10-11 17:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by bleudivabubbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings, are all that count, not anyone Else's. Does this turn of events affect your self-esteem, because it shouldn't! It has nothing to do with you. A persons sexual identity, is there own, no one Else's. The only possible way you could of affected your partners choice of life style would be if they were not gay (for seemingly lack of a better term). Did you abuse, mentally and physically so badly this person is disturbed to a point they do not know their own sexual identity/preference? You are not responsible unless you did. Many people with sexual identity problems, go through not only marriage, but raising of children, before they realize why they are different. I know people that have experienced this, society is backwards, often makes jokes about this, it is not a joking matter.
Thoughts from
NO JOKES FROM ME
2006-10-11 17:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by mld m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would bother me too!!!! But seeing how it has not happend to me, and it is always easier to give advice that receive, I would say that the person probably already felt that way but just chose to let everyone know after you split. I really don't think it was BECAUSE of you! It would totally creep me out too, but don't worry about it too much...just be glad you weren't married!!
2006-10-11 17:16:39 · answer #4 · answered by cadodevine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's devastating, and confusing. It would make me feel that while we were together that there was always a big secret, and that's just a very uneasy feeling. I don't think anyone turns gay, I think they just at some point commit to it. If you really liked them too well that makes it all even worse.
2006-10-11 18:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it bothers you that you didn't see the signs while you were with her. Being gay has nothing to do with you...it has to do with her. I don't believe people just turn gay....they are that way very early and alot of times try supress it due to family, etc. I would just feel...hmmm...how come I didn't catch on.
2006-10-11 17:15:08 · answer #6 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its OK for you ex to be gay, because they wight not have been honest with you and been bi, or hadn't come out of the closet yet. And if you think that you made them turn gay that's probably not the case they probably just have known all along but felt for you even if your not the type they were looking for.
2006-10-11 17:17:12 · answer #7 · answered by kerrer91 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really has nothing to do with you.. she just wanted to see who she really was... in some way she always new she was gay and tried to deny it and then she just had to let you down easy... dont let it bother you to much, that is not good for your health... look at it like this she could have cheated on you but didnt...... take care and good luck in life....you will find someone right for you...
2006-10-11 17:24:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥BUD or BUD LIGHT♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you dating a couple? I am confused about who they is. Do you mean one person? If that IS the case, then I would just be happy that they hadn't broken up with me because my *** is too big or because I was neurotic or mean. The person was confused, be happy that they know who they are now. Good for them, right?
2006-10-11 17:14:48 · answer #9 · answered by anne 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they didn't turn gay all of a sudden, this person was gay when they were with you, they just decided to come out after you, bad timeing huh?
2006-10-11 17:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋