my husband and i have been married for 4 years and together for 5.. recently we had our son who is 7 weeks old... since Riley was born our "nights" together have been short and rare.... i feel as though we have tried everything to ummm... spice things up but it still seems as though its the same thing everytime. any serious thoughts are welcomed...... all perverts please stay away....... i want my "nights" to be as good as my "days" and i dont want hime to go looking somewhere else......
2006-10-11 17:00:13 · 6 answers · asked by i_luv_my_army_man 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well..I think you should try somthing a little more intimate.. Maybe putting the baby to sleep early. Slip on somthing sexy..surprise him one day when he comes home from work. THere are a million things us women can try...It's just up to us to grab the guts and do it..GOOD LUCK..! and remember if you try to hard you might end up with another babie!! lol..
2006-10-11 17:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now you're probably both a bit sleep deprived, (I hope you didn't resume your relationship before the end of the six weeks the doctor told you to wait! Chances for infections are too serious to risk!) It takes a bit of time to get into a routine with a new baby in the house. Do you have family or friends who can watch Riley for a few hours? If so, go on a date. Make out in the car (find a very private place for that! *grin*) There are good books on making love available...check one or two out from the library and read them together. And don't knock the 'tried and true'. The more comfortable you are with one another, the easier it is to talk about what you like, what turns you on, what feels the best...and that can certainly spice things up. Just don't expect to have earth moving sex every night...or every time you make love. Easy and gentle can be just as good!
The one thing that concerns me is your comment about him 'looking elsewhere'. If this is a genuine concern, I'd say that sex is the least of your problems.
2006-10-12 00:10:19 · answer #2 · answered by hrprrbn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for now don't worry about the "spiced" up night. You will get to that once the baby is about three years old. I bet you guys are really tired and busy with the new baby. That is the natural course of parenthood. A baby changes your life for ever. ^_^
One suggestion is that you hire a nanny (a really trusted one) or your inlaws to take care of baby riley for 24 hours. First, spend a day at a relaxing spa and avail of a couples massage, then have some peaceful dinner the two in a nice hotel. Time together is important. It doesn't have to be "raunchy" sex, but the quality of spent time "connecting" together as Life Partners is a must.
Congratulations to a mind-blowing, fun and interesting life ahead to your family. ^_^
2006-10-12 00:09:09 · answer #3 · answered by --- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, 7 weeks into being parents & you're needing help with your sex life? That's scary, regardless it's good you're wanting to do something about it. With such a young bub it's really hard to get any alone time but when he is sleeping I'd take that opportunity to pamper each other with massages & baths together & stuff like that. A fondue is really romantic, you're feeding each other & if needs be it can be left to tend to the baby to get him back to sleep so you can continue. As he gets older make use of friends/relatives to have some couple time. Good luck!
2006-10-12 00:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to tell you this but your baby will mess up your "nights" till he moves out of the house!! maybe you can try getting someone to keep him for a night. so you could get away. or just light some candles and take a bath. he will not go looking anywhere else if he is a decent man! most men find new mothers attractive. it just might take some time to get back to having real fun. but you do have to take time to talk and be alone. even if the baby is in the other room and you fall asleep watching tv on the couch.
2006-10-12 00:05:23 · answer #5 · answered by justagirl_inthesouth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys need to "miss" each other. stay away from each other for a while, then when you meet each other again, it's like dating ur handsome husband again.
2006-10-12 00:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋