does he really want to be w/ me or is he paying me back?

Question

my ex of 8 yrs says he wants to try to work things b/w us out but i'm not sure if he is just blowing smoke to pay me back for leaving him 8 yrs ago & for being a reason for why he gf of almost 3 yrs recently left him or if he really means what he says. this recent ex of his was his 1st gf since we split (she was also his FIRST some 25 yrs ago) & other than the fact that she lives 2 hrs away, the only issue i can think of that caused her to end it was me. (her & i didn't see eye to eye on much especially when it came to our son) i need to know - (it's been 10 months since they split) should believe that his intentions are true or if he's just paying me back? (also he was cheating on her for 1 1/2 yrs of their relationship w/ me & him & i have been together since she dumped him) HELP PLEASE....................

Answer 1

Sounds like he never totally left you.........or for that matter you never totally left him either. Why not work it out together, especially since you have a son together? Just spend time together & not just having sex to see if you really want to be together. I would say that if you get back together & then split again.....I feel for your son, as his father will be leaving once again.

Answer 2

Send him back to the g/f and do yourself a favor, wipe your hands of him once and for all.

Answer 3

Hon~ please read this twice..You need to let him go..Move on and find someone who you child can look up to..

Good roll model..Your son needs you to be strong and a mom he can look up too.. Remember our kids are what we are and if he sees dysfunction guess what he will be dysfunktional...Good luck..

Answer 4

put someone else first once in a while. you sound extremely selfish

Answer 5

you are both losers and I feel sorry for your kid.

Answer 6

pay back