I'm finally graduating high school!!! My parents have been divorced since I was a year old. My dad was an ***, and my mom never really seriously started dating. She needs to start dating and get on with her life, I mean I'll be gone. What can I do to help her to start meeting new guys, and help her get into a realationship??? I love her and I don't want ot see her lonely and alone with cats!!!
2006-10-11 16:16:11 · 14 answers · asked by Christy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your mother may not be ready to date even after 17 years. She may need therapy to help her move on. Bottom line if she is happy with her life leave her alone.
2006-10-11 16:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom always said she didn't want to date until the kids were out of the house. Well i am now almost finished with grad school the kids have been gone for nearly six years and she is just getting started. She decided that she is ready now. She is doing the internet thing and it actually works. Some tips: I would recommend meeting someone in a public place first don't have them pick you up from your home, talk on the phone, email whatever to get to know the person before agreeing to meet.
Another suggestion is there are singles dances for older people to meet both single men and women. You need single friends to go out with to meet single men. I also personally recommend ballroom dancing classes because you can meet guys that way when you are learning the dances.
Best of luck and she will do whatever works for her when she is ready.
2006-10-11 16:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are trying to make this decision for her? She has got along fine apparently for the past 16 or so years, she knows what she wants to do and what she does not want to do. She may have a lot of plans once you move out, and just hasn't discussed them with you yet. Remember, mothers are people too, she has the same likes, dislikes, needs, etc as you and she is the one that needs to decide if she wants to date, and when that would take place.
2006-10-11 16:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did your mom ask you to be her personal matchmaker? I think it's best that you give her the space to make her own decisions in this area.
What if the "shoe" were on the other "foot" and she was insisting that you had to have a man, and the sooner the better? Let Mom take care of Mom, and you just concentrate on your career and making it without Mom.
2006-10-11 16:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by soulguy85 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before making any move, have you ever had any idea what she needed in life? Did she ever told you that she is tired of being alone and needed a company? If not, then why bother.? Perhaps she is happy and comfortable with her life anyway.
2006-10-11 16:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing....she has a find a women of her age ..as a friend...maybe one that usually goes out....with this friend she will be more outgoing....then she will automatically get into a new life...then the boy friend and dating will come naturally....Don't try to get your mother doing things ...she did not have interest to do in 17y....it's a slow therapy...that will be step by step....she needs a friend first...if she's going out there alone....she will be more confused...
2006-10-11 16:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by bomberzz23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem like a very close family for todays times which is very admirable!!! Try to have her just chat with a person on line such as myself so that she can take it as slow as she sees fit... After all its supposed to be all about her!!!! I do consider myself a gentelman and that makes her wishes very important to me!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 16:29:57 · answer #7 · answered by kool_aide 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for an x married woman best oppotunity to find mr right, look in obituaries, see one that shows husband a good supporter drive by home listed see the quality. notice age of autos, then go to wake, give silent prayer over casket, meet husband, look him over, make sure he attracts her, then give husband her name and address, tell him if there is any thing you can do for him, Not sex, follow him to find where you goes; arrange to go there unknowingly to him
just happen to bump into him, say at his church, walmart, any where he might go, say hello, if she interest your mother after about 6 months she is on
2006-10-11 16:25:36 · answer #8 · answered by navyby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Encourage her, but be willing to accept the possibility that she may not be ready yet.
And keep in mind, there are worse things than being alone.
2006-10-11 16:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Ed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Set her up with some men and talk to her about it and tell her that you care and dont want her to be alone. Buena Suerte!
2006-10-11 16:20:00 · answer #10 · answered by BrbE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋