I never know what to say.......to guys?

Question

I am usually quite talkative, however, when it comes to guys I don't know what to say and I end up saying something lame or stupid...... there's this guy on by bus...we speak quite a lot but I always feel supid afterwards because of what I say. Also, when there's pauses, I think about what else I could say to keep the convo going but again I say something stupid. Do I just keep my mouth shut?????

Answer 1

Find something that you two have in common. You will feel comfortable talking about something that interests you. And don't worry about what you say, it will only make it worse! Good luck!

Answer 2

Hey :) to be quite is nice, don't worry, some guys like this in girls. However, if you want to keep the convo ask " Open Question" which mean ; the questions which need long answers, not that which end by yes or no. Good luck

Answer 3

If you're talkng about that one person on the bus, rather than generally to 'all guys'......There's always a possibility that he feels the same way. Try this....after the next awkward pause.... ask this question..."Do you ever feel like everything that comes out of your mouth sounds stupid?"...and even if he says 'no'...say..."when I talk to you that's the way I feel". It sounds like you're trying so hard to impress that you're ignoring how you actually feel....so just be honest....it always makes for better conversation.

Answer 4

I'm sure you do not sound stupid...and you do not have to be saying something every second. If you don't have anything to say just look over and smile. Ask him questions about him...did you hear about the new movie or did you see this show or whatever...Don't keep your mouth shut, but don't babble on either. Just smile, say something nice, ask a question and listen!

Answer 5

I don't know what grade ur in but i used to have the same problem!!!! If you guys are just friends then it don't really matter what ur talking about. There is so much to talk about lol and yes i know most the time you can't think of anything to say and then when you think about it later ur like oh my god that sounded so dumb rite?? I just don't really care lol. If you want to know whether or not he likes you all you have to do is start like an awkward silence, if he likes you then he isn't going to want that type of silence he will start talking. (but remember just because he's talking to you does not mean he likes you).

Answer 6

sometimes its okay to just be quiet, but yeah I know what you mean about those desparate few seconds sometimes when it's your turn to talk and you can't think of anything.....I hate that!

A good way to maybe keep it going would be ask him about his day, let him play out what he wants to talk about....you can always seguay that into "what are you doing tonight?" =)

lol I'd say a combination of Biggie's and Jennygirl's answers are pretty much on the money!

Answer 7

Guys are thinking the very same things you are thinking, even the "cool" ones. There is no requirement that you have to talk all the time like a DJ. You can say a 1000x more with your eyes than with your lips.

Answer 8

Start with Hello. If you make people smile, you can say what ever you like. Look around you and words will come to you.

Answer 9

Well just try find out what his interests are. That way next time that you talk to him, you won't say anything stupid!!!

Answer 10

if you like him, when the conversation dies, concentrate on the NONverbal conversation. Look up at him, get eye contact, and smile really big. If he smiles back you've got continued "conversation" without the awkward words!