Generally, when I have sex with guys, there's nothing left in the relationship for me. I'm usually gone by the morning, so to speak.. But this is a prb because, due to that, I've never had a relationship that's lasted beyond physical.My friends are telling me that I have commitment issues and doing this could hurt me phychologically, but I honestly, do not think that's true, to the slighest-but can it phycological/mental instabilities? or is it natural to expierement?
I am really ******* confused
2006-10-11 16:12:40 · 18 answers · asked by sams_town_is_my_town 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's very common hon......you just haven't met the guy yet who can ring your bell. it's a lot of things combined not just sex. When you see the fireworks, stop and give that guy another look..........
2006-10-11 16:18:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No f kidding, look you haven't met anyone that has meant anything more than that before, I hope you meet him soon, but watch out you may not like the feelings and be really at a loss to come to grasp with what is wrong with you when it does hit you.
Honest, sometimes figuring out that you are "in love" can be very stressful sometimes and you may not even or convince yourself that you don't like this or that about the person but you won't be able to deny the attraction and you will notice things about him as a man that you never noticed about other men before. You will be happy just to get a glimpse of him doing something he loves, you will know. Meanwhile I don't think you are doing anything wrong just don't do it with married men which you haven't mentioned so I'm assuming you don't. Good luck, a lot of men use women for sex too you know.
2006-10-11 23:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is natural to experiment to a certain extent. Sex is not a tool that you should wield around casually as it was initially intended for the purpose of procreation between a married couple, however, some people will leave the intended and proper use of many things and demean them by using them in an improper way. Results such as STD's, abortions, unwanted children, psychological and emotional issues are just the top of the iceburg. What message are you sending to others when you can't control and don't know your own motives for your actions. May I suggest you take the time to find out about yourself before you take such uncalculated risks with your body. Take your time and look before you leap and ask yourself why you are leaping before you do it. I hope this helps.
2006-10-11 23:50:09 · answer #3 · answered by puss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the way I see it, if you like your life as it is and feel like this lifestyle is okay for you, go ahead. One thing I can assure you of is that the men won't be complaining; they generally want sex a lot more than women do.
On the other hand, if you actually do want a relationship with someone, then you need to find some way of doing that. I can't give you much advise on this past just sticking with the guy and accepting that love and sex can go together just fine.
2006-10-11 23:17:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys go through the same thing ! I have had sex with a lot of women that had meant nothing to me, And maybe they felt the same way about it ? I would not spend to much time worrying about it, One day a certain guy will come along and then you will know what I am talking about !
2006-10-11 23:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by g_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Have you ever had a relationship that lasted for more than a few months? If its a pattern that continues with every guy you meet than yes you have commitment issues. I'd say see a therapist about it.
2006-10-11 23:21:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you prolly have a problem trusting guys....maybe other guys have hurt you in the past such as a dad, uncle, ex, ect. I understand...I had a big trust issue and I was independent and I think thats what it sounds like with you...just give it a shot, and hold off having sex with a guy...good luck
2006-10-11 23:16:49 · answer #7 · answered by lovin' you 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be confused. What you do is normal and is your buisness. You may settle down into a relationship if that is what you want. But as it goes, enjoy life. Did you ever think that your friends might be a bit jealous?
2006-10-11 23:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you definetly have commitment issues! I wish I was that way! You never have to get your heart broken, you can just break their hearts! About time the men get a dose of it. I say good for you!
2006-10-11 23:15:47 · answer #9 · answered by day dreamin baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just don't need/want anyone else in your life. Next time, give a guy a chance for a few weeks. There might not be anything you need from him, but you might find something you enjoy in spite of yourself.
2006-10-11 23:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by Akfek_Branford 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋