How can I encourage my son to take up for himself and not be bullied around at school?

Answer 1

Put him in some confidence building classes like karate, judo, or whatever they call it now. Course imo, I think they take too long learning bowing and all that jazz before learning some defensive moves.

Put him in some kind of self-defense class. Call friends and ask them where to find some that he can learn skills rather than be another guy's punching bag for the class.

Not to scare you, but Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold were picked on and beat up until they finally lost it and blew a fuse.

Answer 2

This is a very difficult question to answer. On the one hand, you want to give your son all the knowledge and skills to be able to defend himself verbally and physically without emotionally traumatizing, or seriously injuring the other children. You also don't want him to become a bully himself. Fighting is sometimes necessary. You should stress that if someone hurts him physically and he feels threatened that he should fight back. Send him to martial arts (I would say no to Karate and Tae Kwon Do if you live in the states. There are very few quality schools. Stick with Judo, Jiu-Jitsu, Akido or Jeet Kune Do) where he will learn to harness and respect the power of self defense. If the instructors are good, they'll address the issue of bullies and do some of your job for you.

Answer 3

First, you must patiently, and lovingly tell your son how much you love him, and how proud you are of him. Afterall, you're his first coach. Then, explain to your son that he's a "man in progress", and by no means should he EVER tolerate ANY kind of B.S. from no one!!! Explain to him that he's got the same rights as anyone else, and if necessary, whoever the bully he's dealing with, no matter what his size is, should be dealt with a BASEBALL BAT upside his head!!! Trust me, whoever this JACKOFF is...he'll get the message.

Answer 4

At first I taught my kids the same as my dad taught me - if someone hits you, then hit them back. Even if you lose, they'll get tired of picking on someone who fights back every time.

But that doesn't work nowadays. With zero tolerance policies in schools these days, both parties get suspended, even the one defending themself. But witnesses do get interviewed, and can make a difference.

So I instructed both of my kids that anytime it looked like someone was about to get physical with them, they should make a lot of noise to attract the attention of as many witnesses as possible. 'Hey! 'What are you doing?' 'Stop it!' 'Don't do that!'

That approach seemed to work pretty well.

Answer 5

Martial arts work wonders, without the violence.

It's confidence building nd has Kudos!

Answer 6

I think you should sit down and talk to him about it...tell him that he needs to stand up for himself and not let others pick on him, try not to make it to where he feels uncomfrontable...if that doesnt work then, I would take it to the admin. office!...good luck

Answer 7

have a conversation with him and give him the consequences

Answer 8

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