Do you expect a guy to pay up for every date? How should a guy imply that you may have to put up your share too, your both going out anyway..
2006-10-11 15:58:15 · 24 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
expect?
not really...if ur constantly dating for quite sometime then i think the girl should do the initiative to pay...
but for newbies...
this is another way to impress ur lady date...
i will dump a guy instantly if he'll ask me to pay for the dinner on our first date.
be gentleman okey
2006-10-11 16:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy should definitely take the tab more than half of the time! Especially if he's the one who asked the lady out on the date. But, if it's lunch, dinner or even a quick bite, I usually go half or pay for my guy's once in a while. A guy should never imply to a girl to pay beacuse it makes you look cheap! A simple, "Hey, when are you going to take me out (wink, wink)?", is a polite enough hint. If she's a good enough girl and not just out for your money, she'll be more than glad to take the bill the next time you go out. That's how I am, anyway. Good luck and don't be rude unless she's rude first!
2006-10-11 16:03:06 · answer #2 · answered by bri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is a first date, then the person who did the asking should ask the other if it is OK that they pay for the date. Any other date there after, it is not out of line to ask to go dutch. If she is short on cash, tell her no problem and find something to do that doesn't involve much cash. There is tons of stuff to do. It's not the activity your doing together that really matters here, it's the getting to know one another that's important. And besides with women's lib at full gusto now a days, it amazes me that guys are still concerned about paying for dates! That's very thoughtful....
2006-10-11 16:11:13 · answer #3 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first couple of dates has to be you. If not, whether she's a gold digger or not, she's going to think that she's going to have to always pick up the tab. So she'll slowly back off of you. The first couple of dates is you. Keep it light if you can't afford it. And if you are in high school, I wouldn't be too worried about it. It's not really a big deal. After like 3-4 dates, mention paying your own way to go somewhere.
2006-10-11 16:02:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem with paying for all the dates, but still want to go out with the girl but just don't have enough money maybe you should be man enough to ask if she wouldn't mind going "dutch" (where the two of you split the bill). Either she will be fine with it or she won't. Still I do agree who ever asks the person out should pay unless the 2 of you have decided to go "dutch". If you have planned the outing together but didn't discuss who would pay, you being a gentleman better be prepared to pay the bill.
2006-10-11 16:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely expect a guy to pay for 100% of every date, and when the time is right I repay him in my own little ways by treating him to a concert, or a special dinner..... but it is when and how I feel the time is right for me to be generous... not because he EXPECTED me to. It's called being a gentleman, and a lady respects and appreciates a gentleman, and will show him that over time.....
2006-10-11 16:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by Cheryl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Me personally i dont expect the guy to pay all the time. Just after suggesting a date simply say who's treat? If she reply yours or give you the "i know you don't want me to pay" look i think it's time to have a talk hope that helps
2006-10-11 16:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by lil mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't be expected to pay for every date....
Talk to her about the situation and ask her if she can pay half of the date sometimes. Also find places to go that don't require a lot of money --- or look for free concerts, movies at the local library, book readings - picnics in the park or by the lake.... cook food at her place or yours/ watch videos...it's fun!
2006-10-11 16:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man asks a woman on a date, it is customary that the man pays for the meal.
Now, It took me till I was 20 to let a man pay for everything but that's just me. I always felt uncomfortable not putting any money in.
If you dont have the money, dont ask a wman on a date!
2006-10-11 16:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by triciasdish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette goes that whoever ask the person out should pay. I believe it should go for people in a relationship. If the girl ask the guy out the girl pays if the guy ask the girl out the guy pays.
2006-10-11 16:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by Crumbling_Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋