He dumped me and married someone else. I found out recently that he's divorced. Meanwhile I married another and have 2 kids. I've been in contact with him recently and he's all I think about. We haven't seen each other for almost 20 years. He also lives 500 miles away from me. What should I do?
2006-10-11 15:57:50 · 10 answers · asked by angelica 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you were head over heels in love with your husband you wouldn't even be thinking of this other guy. You need to use this as a way to rekindle your romance in your marriage. If the marriage is really on the rocks then I would suggest counseling.
Start simple though. When's the last time you went on a date, just sat together alone and just kissed, or had such wild passionate sex that you did not want for any other? If you haven't experienced any of these things lately it's probably why you are thinking of another man.
If you really want to leave your husband then don't cheat on him. Tell him you want a divorce and then go chase someone else, but don't cheat, it will cause so much pain in the hearts of your children and you will loose their respect, no matter how old they are.
If you want to stay work on making it better so you won't want for another. Perhaps look into a lovers retreat to get things going again with the hubby.
Type in couples resorts or bed and breakfasts into www.google.com and you will get plenty of ideas.
2006-10-11 16:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by polarviolet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop. You're pursuing this without thinking of consequences or reality here. Yes, you could potentially run off and marry this man and live happily ever after - BUT not likely. Second marriages have less than a 20% chance of not ending in divorce. Try looking at what your lacking in your marriage currently, because you aren't giving it 100% if you're emotionally attaching yourself to someone else, and that's not fair to your marriage or your kids. Just remember, the past is the past for a reason and try to get a grip on what you already have - Not the fantasy you're painting 500 miles away.
2006-10-11 16:04:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can you be in love with someone you haven't seen in almost 20 years. Do you think that giving up your husband is worth this guy that dumped you and married someone else and now that he is divorces is coming back to you.
2006-10-11 16:00:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your married concentrate on making your marriage work forget him altogether to many poeple get hurt by things like this .have a nice day you have a husband and kids be grateful for that.
2006-10-11 16:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone unless you're ready to divorce your husband and deal with splitting up your household. I read recently that this can be one of the most powerful compulsions you can have. Be careful and be sure that's what you really want.
2006-10-11 16:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by wildstar_2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok what you ought to do is in basic terms be her buddy and allow her see the type you extremely are there for her, looks to me that she desires time to heal and spot the genuine image of each little thing. no rely if it extremely is meant to be it extremely is going to be yet whilst it isnt, then you definately will consistently have a suited buddy out of it.
2016-10-16 02:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You are married and yuou should simply shut that old boyfriend out of your heart. Do not even THINK of him.
2006-10-11 15:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by me8md 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
is your name leah!! that was my predicament too...haha.... but cant really say what happened, make up your own mind, just remember this if you have security, a house, a family that you love, are you willing to risk it for a maybe??????? but if you would be willing to talk about it with me id be more than happy to talk to you about it... moon_water_eyes on yahoo
2006-10-11 16:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by Leah P 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him some of that OLD STUFF u know u want to. let him dust the cob webbs off. get some of those old juices flowing
2006-10-11 16:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Priesd D 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
cheat on ur man and dont say nothing
2006-10-11 16:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋