I'm not talking about staying with an abusive lover. Somebody you can't get along with or see eye to eye with, but you are inexplicably drawn to them. Maybe sexually, but not necessarily. You just feel that there is a reason you are supposed to be communicating with each other.
If so, how do you explain it? Past-life thing? "Chemistry"? A spiritual lesson to be learned?
Do you think it's important to try to find a way to keep communicating with this person, or do you think it should be let go if it's not feasible?
2006-10-11 15:21:20 · 11 answers · asked by Sinner & Saint 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Yes. Chemistry is very hard to resist, even if the relationship isn't practical & drives you nuts! Depends what's most important to you. Another person may not drive you nuts but also may not light your fire in bed etc. It's a trade-off. A content relationship or a passionate (albeit turbulent one)...
:) Good luck, my friend. Enjoy the rollercoaster...
2006-10-12 10:50:13 · answer #1 · answered by amp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of my best friends (going on 6 years now)
The first time we encoutered one another we hated each other, yet were drawn to what the other person had to offer. We differ in or senses of style and self, political views, taste in almost everything (aside from some music). She is very unpredictable where I tend to be much more thoughtful and aware of consequences.
For us (though we argue about everything) it is partially chemistry, and a need for one another. I need someone who pushes me to do things that I normally wouldn't to be a little more spunky and spontaneus. She needs a shoulder to cry on and someone to knock some sense into her once in a while. We communicate through our arguments, sometimes they end well, sometimes we don't speak for a few days. We are both very hard-headed so us changing the way we communicate will never happen. Sometimes we are just angry with one another, and that is fine.
We drive each other insane, but neither of us would be who we are today if it weren't for one another....(I think it could be a fate/past-life thing but she'd say that's a load of crap).
We might not get why we need each other so much or why we put up with the others crap...but someday we'll know.
2006-10-11 23:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by Courtlyn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am at the same place you are. I think it has something to do with past lives and karma. We are playing out old karmic traits, and we have to....I think, let them go. Because such behavior (I'm thinking...don't know) Is due to old obsessions. And Obsession isn't anything to so with real love. Real love isn't chemical. Though that doesn't mean having chemistry with someone is negative. It's great, if he/ she is at a closer level to what you are on. The girl I am flippin' out over is still a party girl, and likes guys that don't usualy respect her, and just want her for a fling. I on the other hand am alcohol free as a lifestyle choice. Can't be around that. No judgement on social drinkers now! It's just my personal choice. Good luck findin' more info.
2006-10-11 23:11:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true spiritual guide, a master is THE BEST EVER POSSIBLE example of this !
Reason, too simple... process.. too complex.. needs too many capabilities, in fact all possible capabilities that a human can have !
The reason is to ensure growth of perception . The process is to enhance the awareness/alertness levels to peak , by removing all possible sense of security available to a person !
(Well, this answer gives a feeling of having let out too many secrets of mystic ways !)
Only a person who is an embodiment of COMPASSION would venture to try it on others, the risk being the highest than even conceivable to a logical mind !
2006-10-12 02:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is what i call chemistry. it can be so volatile yet so compelling... how you use it is up to you. but be careful because this is an emotional charge that will often lead you to make decisions based on feelings rather than logic. i think in reality it is important to evaluate any relationship based on give and take, benefit vs risk, and long-term compatibility based on mutual respect. chemistry is great... it makes us feel so alive! but if the relationship is not feasible you should consider letting go. eventually the electric feeling wears off and then you're stuck looking reality in the face and wondering what motivated your decisions. just be sure to weigh all of the factors.
2006-10-11 22:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by ŧťŠ4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't call it chemistry....I think these people are put in our lives for many reasons...right now i am in a bible class with this veterinarian who drives me up the wall because he questions everything that the bible or anyone says, but we can't help but love him for participating like he does.....on the other side of me is the funniest guy who needles everyone......I am learning so many things from both these guys.....one is about 55 and the "doubting Thomas" is turning 70 this year. maybe you believe that there has to be some sexual affinity or chemistry.....i say, a big fat no....
2006-10-11 22:38:54 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have encountered this very problem. This is this one girl whom I know, lets call he Valery. Well she is a super *****, ultra liberal, and at times does not seem to be that smart, however I always want to be around. I suppose I want to be around her because she is so very very attractive. I see no importance on tiring to forge any kind of friendly relationship with her, I only want to see her because she is so fine.
Now if there could be some why that we are together yet she doesn't talk, then maybe.....
2006-10-11 22:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by The Duke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn those hormones, pheromones.
I knew someone who had the hots for someone who was so unappealing to most people, but there was something about how she smelled that reminded him of his loving grandmother who had cherished and nurtured him as a child and had recently died. So, her smell enticed him ,in spite of so many other factors that were not wise for him to be dealing with. So, many deep-seated aspects can cause an attraction. But stay awake and be wary cause those hormones are potent and can really lead you astray!
2006-10-11 22:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Salsa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in love with a pious married woman. She loves me but won't admit it. Drives me crazy. I'm beholden to her though. For some strange reason I can't shake her. She's given me nothing but problems and I still love her. Like a magnet, or a moth to a flame.
2006-10-11 23:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by tallspot07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope.a vista nada "chemistry"
2006-10-11 23:19:27 · answer #10 · answered by gracita s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋