How do you deal with a depressed/mean family member?

Question

I just turned 18, and I recently moved back to where my mom, stepdad, and 2 brothers live. (I was living w/ my real dad, but things didn't work.) Everything was great for the first week or so, but my mom's real side started showing. She is always in a bad mood, belittles everyone around her, and seems to get addicted to anything she uses (caffeine, junk food, even antacids, orajel, and lotion!) The only thing she talks about is how much she hates her job, how much her feet hurt, and money problems. I know I sound unsympathetic, but I tried to help her work through it, but she won't talk to anyone, won't express any feelings except anger/disgust with everything. She really creates her own misery though, like not switching jobs, she blew up her car from driving wreclessly, and the list goes on. There's not enough char. to explain it all, but I would like to hear other opinions on how to deal with a bipolar person who refuses to get help. What do I do?

Answer 1

Live your own life, even while you live in her home. Find a way to become independent as soon as you can and plan to live the kind of life YOU wish to live. With a bipolar Mom myself, I can say it is a difficult job. I also know I inherited the depression side of my mother's bipolar disorder. And this past year I found a new product that has eliminated my lifetime of clinical depression (I'm too stubborn to allow the realities of a clinical depression to have me living in total pain, so I worked long and hard on my own attitudes and behaviors so they weren't the same as the things I disliked about my mother's choices of how to behave). This product also took away my Fibromyalgia pains, my headaches and it is even beginning to take care of my old money problems. (you can email me if you'd like to know more about it) It is called Prime Delight (see www.primedelight.net) and works fantastically according to me and a whole lot of others who have been using it somehwere along the way of it first being introduced October 2005.

Be your own individual and know that you cannot fix your mother any more than I can fix my mother -- we can only love them while they are doing the best they can possibly do at any time. Sounds as though you have a bit of an advantage being a little more stable than your mother and perhaps even more mature. Don't use that as a weapon but as an advantage to keep it real with your mother, not figuring out for her the solutions, but remembering that she has a life impediment that at times prevents her from seeing as well as you do.

I wish you the best.

Answer 2

Well my 1st question would be "do u really know if your Mom is bipolar?" If she is then i think you should start off slow and even though she may be in a bad mood try asking her how her day was and what happen? Because if u try to get that question out there 1st not only will it show your Mom that your interested but it should also help her take a breath and talk to you, instead of just being angry, and really the more u try to talk to her about what shes feeling and or how shes feeling, she will soon be able to express herself. But if your Mom is the type of person that does not like to express her feelings then it will take a while for her to open up!!!! But you will show her that you care!!!!!!!!! But as I said just try to get her to talk to her, without pushing or making her tell her cause then she will just stay in the bad mood! But talking always helps no matter what, and just try to understand her and whatever she tells you!!!!!

Answer 3

She sounds really unhappy within herself i wonder what is really going on with her? Unfortunately sweetheart sometimes that is the way it goes. Have you thought about taking her out to a nice peaceful spot and opening your heart to her maybe even a letter sometimes we hurt those that we love the most. I really feel for you and the rest of your family. Have you considered talking to a doctor or support group for family dealing with a troublesome loved one they are good because they help you to find ways to deal with it so you don't take it on personally or blame yourself. Your Mum needs help and she is probably very proud and also afraid of what that means. Knowledge is POWER. Good luck honey.

Answer 4

Do like I'm sure any family would do talk to her tell her how you feel if she says she don't wan't to talk make her because any parent especially any mother would listen to there child if it kills them. And if she's acting like she don't hear you, if you are serious and being for real about her needing help, believe me she's hearing you, and tell her you love her and as her child you wan't to help and care for her.