i've had this best friend for about 3 or 4 years. this last january her family forced her to move 6 hours away. they have no car now. we dont see each other very often. but the problem is her boyfriend is hitting on me, to day we had sex. not very much by choice.
What Should i do????
HELP!
2006-10-11 15:04:19 · 24 answers · asked by .:.:.Mizz_undaStood.:.:. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it was kind of forced but not totally!......he persuaded me
2006-10-11 15:07:58 · update #1
What do you mean, not by choice? Does the boyfriend live near you and have they been having a long distance relationship for the past 10 months?
First, if this wasn't by choice...HE NEEDS HIS A$$ KICKED! Not to mention possible rape charges brought upon him if this was non-consentual~ ! Now, if this was a matter of him making you feel insecure, or uncomfortable or intimidated in some way, and you didn't say no...but WANTED to...I want you to stop and think right now;
You don't want him. You feel bad about his advances. You feel bad for your friend, and guilty about this. THIS IS HIS FAULT! Don't let him put the guilt on you! HE is doing it. He's JUST a person, and not worth any more than you are. In fact, he's a total jerk. Don't let a complete scuzbag have the upper hand! You're better than he is, so don't let his sorry rear pressure you into anything!
If you don't like this guy, and don't want to see him...tell him he needs to leave you the hell alone! TAKE CHARGE of this, girl! I'd tell your friend too! To hell with this guy and HIS feelings! I know you may be worried about how your friend would feel, but HE doesn't respect or love her either, if he's doing that crap to you!
2006-10-11 15:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean,"not very much by choice"? Did he rape you? You need to call the police if that is what happened.
If you had sex with him and you just feel bad about it, you should. He will probably tell her what happened. So you better find a way to tell her before he does!! It could ruin your friendship. But she lives six hours away, so it might be easier to handle now in some ways. This isn't a very good situation. I hope things work out for you.
2006-10-11 22:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to burn in hell.First of all she was your best friend I am a man but most descent people have honor Even some men, you don't have sex with your friends, boy or girl friend but if you did was it worth what you fell now,was it that good is it eating you up.what should you do,call your friend and tell her you wrote she lives 6 hours away and no car well get her when she is down. cant take much more away
2006-10-11 22:18:21 · answer #3 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean when you say "not very much by choice"?
Were you raped?
If so go to the police and report him for yourself and it's the least you can do to stop him doing it to someone else!
As far as your friendis concerned you should tell her too! Write her a letter and phone her when you can.
Friends that are true are never apart really!
2006-10-11 22:08:51 · answer #4 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused... if you know her boyfriend is hitting on you and this bothers you... why not just stay away from him?
As for the "not very much by choice" part... go get help if you were raped. If you weren't raped and you had sex with him... then... again, I'm confused. What exactly do you need help with?
2006-10-11 22:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by Sam I AM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my friends b/f.
she went away to France with her mom to visit family and I was choosen to keep an eye on him. If I didn' t back off when he invited me out to see a movie or take a ride on his motor cycle we would have been in trouble. So I sayed away. We just spoke on the phone.
2006-10-11 22:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by winter715 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your BEST FRIEND and you're upset that HER BOYFRIEND is hitting on YOU. But today you HAD SEX WITH HIM, "NOT VERY MUCH BY CHOICE! WTF?? Did he rape you?? Or did you just give in?? HUGE DIFFERENCE!!!!!!!
If he forced you, call the police. Gauranteed you are not the first or last! As for being "best friends" you don't deserve that title anymore.
2006-10-11 22:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too late to be asking this question. You crossed boundries too. THis is your BEST friends boyfriend, no matter where she is you should always respect that, it was bad enough he was hitting on you, but you gave in!
2006-10-11 22:07:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um...... Not by choice? How did it go from hitting on to sex? Dear you never sleep with your best friend, or any friends boyfriend. NEVER.
She probably will find out.......... CRY CRY CRY and then fess up!
2006-10-11 22:07:37 · answer #9 · answered by Mekayla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not very much by choice? first of all u need to clarify that? was protection used? If she is a true friend tell her right away......best to do it face to face if possible...NEVER do it online
2006-10-11 22:06:43 · answer #10 · answered by not_an_angel_just_a_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋