happened out of rebound.. but lives with the person and does not have anywhere else to go..doesnt want to tell her family cause he is black and she is white and her family is prejudice and they would never talk to her again but pretends she is happy but miserable and depressed, the man is an alcoholic and can be very aggitated with or without alcohol,that is basically his life ..after work and on weekends..never wants to go anywhere but at home with a beer.. says mean things to her children from previous marriage ..he acts like they are in boot camp everyday, should be seen and not heard..then says some not so kind things to her at times but at times he can be very nice ..even buys them things she feels very stressed to have house perfectly cleaned to his liking and children quite when he comes in as well as having dinner cooked being that she lives with him and still feels like a guest .because of sarcastic remarks he makes about cleaning, house is spotless btw ....any advice?
2006-10-11 14:52:06 · 3 answers · asked by cassie06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
move out after the baby. tell her parents she is pregnant by a black man not to get them angry but a honest mistake. she needs to tell her parents before he baby comes so they can be prepared and start developing a bond with the unborn child if they choose to do so. am not sure who she is living with: black man or white man either way this person should not be around the kids with that attitude. after the baby start rebuilding her life will take time but will benefit the kids and herself in the long run. please don't treat the kid any different the unborn child will have it hard when he/she grows up as it is. good luck to her and be strong
2006-10-11 15:00:40 · answer #1 · answered by sexylousleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you need to leave this man if you don't love him. Find a safe place to go, any where is fine there a centers for such situations. Then sit down no matter how hard it is and talk it out with the family. If they are prejudice tell them that you still love them and you hope they love you enough to work it out. Try to work it out, then be safe and start a new life.
2006-10-11 21:56:02 · answer #2 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you help her? Let her live with you or help her find a shelter for abused women & kids because that is exactly what she & her kids are! The insults can hit harder than a fist. Bruises fade, emotional scars are forever. Help her find her self esteem and backbone so she can leave. A shelter is not a prison. They are usually nice homes with a yard, a safe place where the only people they have to deal with are women in the same position and the people who are there to help.
2006-10-11 22:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by grrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋