I'm attracted to a woman at my church and I believe she's attracted to me by the way she hugs me and calls me a pet name but I'm married and 8yrs older than her.I don't want to hurt my wife. should I tell the other woman how I feel and see if she feels the same or just keep my mouth shut.
2006-10-11 14:45:11 · 14 answers · asked by malenymph69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just keep your mouth shut. Iknow its sooo tempting for something new, but its good to know you did something good inside once you stand up & fight for your marriage. Be a man. meaning be honest and faithful. Dont give in to your thoughts. Your talking to an expert and i fought it & it worked. It went away.
2006-10-11 14:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you say "should I tell the other woman how I feel" do you mean by telling her you are attracted to her? A question for you to think about is what is the outcome of that? Yes, what if she said she felt the same for you? what are you going to do about it? And what about your wife? If she believe a guy was attracted to her, what would you hoped she have done? secondly, just because she hugs you and calls you a pet name is that worth it to disappoint your wife? I say keep your mouth shut until you are willing to face the consequences!
2006-10-11 21:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by !~bela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should focus on your wife since you are married, there is obviously something special there. I would also talk to a male leader in your church about why you have feelings for some one else, maybe there is something you need that your wife needs to work with you on. If this lady has feelings for you make it clear that you don't feel the same, hug and show affection to your wife in front of her, she will get the hint. There is always the possibility that she is just nice and you are getting the wrong idea.
2006-10-11 21:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by I'm here for now 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, discuss it with your wife and see what both of you decide to do. Get a grip on yourself, you don't want to be a cheater and a liar, an adulterer and a misleader. Do you? No I didn't think so, otherwise you wouldn't be going to church would you? Keep your feelings of that kind inside your marriage and you'll be sooooo glad. That's love.
2006-10-11 21:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lets see... ur 8 yrs older? Is she a minor? That may answer ur question. Also, how religious r u? Does adultry bother u? And do u have kids and if so, how would they feel? Anyways, think b4 u act. Is she really worth loosing ur wife? Do u love ur wife? I'm askin because if the woman ur talkin bout isn't doin what u think, and ur wife finds out, that would be terrible!!! All I can say is REALLY think it over. Is it REALLY worth not being with the one you vowed your life to?
2006-10-11 21:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by renee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep your mouth shut you say this woman goes to your church i think your just reading to much into her hugs why would a woman who goes to your church that knows your wife and probally knows how long you have been married want you for herself get a grip and talk to your minester
2006-10-11 22:18:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jeannie T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her how you feel unless you are sure she feels attracted to you. Otherwise she might freak out and tell your wife and then you'll be screwed. But if the signs are there, I'd say tell her, or if you can get her alone, make a move. Just be smart about it and don't get caught!
2006-10-11 21:57:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you should keep is your distance!this is one of the main reasons non believers use to stay out of church they feel church goers are liars and cheaters and things of that nature,what you should be doing is making sure your name is not mix up in any gossip,you have a wife you should not be looking,you go to church trying to get closer to God and if you think He's not watching you don't know the God we serve.that nothing but the enemy try to get you to take the forus off God and His word be careful you don't fall
2006-10-11 22:20:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut, and no more hugs from this woman.
2006-10-11 21:48:02 · answer #9 · answered by lollipop 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in the bible it say..........when a man founds a wife he shall have a good thing.you dont think your wife is your good thing? do you know that god is testing your faith.the bible also say and lead us not into temptation.i just think you really need to pray on it and ask god he will answer your prayers.but i dont think she like you like that.but my heart tells me that god is testing you.dont let the devil get into your marrige oky.but you need to talk to god,and what ever god tells you then tell your wife so that she will understand whats going on.
look when i was going to class i had this guy kiss me but one thing i would like to clear up is that i know him and hes my good friend.he kiss right then i just felt in my soul that god was testing me and my faith.so i had told me fiance that he had kiss me then he was upset but i know that my fiance is my good thing b/c/ he found me and i cant hurt him..you know why i cant hurt him b/c god gave him to me and that something that i will not let go not the devil in hell.
2006-10-11 21:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋