If your father made you feel small or insignificant growing up, how can that psychologically affect you?

Answer 1

for a girl it makes you search for male approval-the easiest way to acquire male approval-at least in the short term-is with sex
the more you have sex in an attempt to get "love" the worse you feel because men say love but mean sex and then reject you when you get too needy.
my opinion

Answer 2

Well for starters it can make you go one of two ways -

people often become the ausive one in order not to be abused anymore . In this case you end up going about making others feel the way you felt in order to not be the one that gets it.

"This boild down to the old saying eiter the hammer of the anvil be".

Or you can become weak and play out the anvil role and go from failed job to job or relationship or whatever in order to continually recreate the programing you have recieved .

The third approach is that you seek out in yourself how it does affect you and if that gives you a positive or a negative. A positive may be that you recognise it in others or you have a sense of empathy for those exhibiting the same "symptoms"

Only by becoming aware of the how's can you change and use the skills devloped in the early exchanges.

Beware there is a trap in the third alternative as well . if you over intelectualise the process of awareness you suffer from detatchment and coldness and don't really deal with the issue at all - but it seems you have.

The other trap is over vigilance where you asign your emotions to every one you see - This is called tranference .

Answer 3

That's unfortunate for sure, but you have already taken a step to deal with it. For most situations in life YOU control how you react and how you feel. You decide if another person's actions or lack of action will affect your daily life to whatever extent. Likely your father felt low self-esteem??, or many men fall into substance abuse and it warps their thinking; and did not realize how he was affecting you at the time or down the road. Best to forgive him if you can, realize in your own mind that you are not small nor insignificant. None of us are. There are some excellent books and of course some highly affecting counselling to help you see things another way. Go for it and good luck.

Answer 4

not fa from the place I stay we've an o.ok.tree that's probably going over one thousand years old. it extremely is supported with iron rods under that's branches. it extremely is rotted and hollow interior yet produces acorns each 365 days.i don't even ought to seek for to renowned how insignificant i'm in the scheme of issues. Throw a stone right into a nonetheless pond it's going to make a huge splash and it will bypass outwards in the direction of the perimeters and may even reason a wave on the banks. After some according to probability seconds the pond will return to that's placid self as though no person had thrown in a stone. that's how significant we are

Answer 5

Strongly.

For you could be terrible. But being conscious of this, you have solved 50% of the problem.

The other half could take a whole life, but...

You have a huge advantage over the rest of people, because -if you manage to do well- you will get a protective shield that others dont have and will become very self confident.

And regarding your father, dont judge him. Just forgive him. You will be FREE and strong. Stronger than never before.

With my best wishes...

Answer 6

This could get you unconsciously depressed, it makes it challenging for you to trust yourself in general, let aside negative emotions such as hate,anger and false hope.

You can have a different reaction or experience depending on your character, the time period this's been the case ,% of body hormones and phsyology

I wouldn't wish this for a living soul

Answer 7

You can only make yourself feel something in response to anothers machinations. Some of us are not downloaded clones. Then again, I suppose some are that suggestible. Before the onset of psychologically driven, political correctness, we use to call that " being weak "

Answer 8

low sense of self, promiscuous behavior (if female), depressive symptoms, and approval seeking are what comes to mind. I would suggest finding a good therapist to help you work through some of these issues. Good Luck.

Answer 9

this happened to me. i could never live up to my own expectations futhermore his. i seems now i have to prove myself in everything i do. i have to be the one who has the floor, even though i know i'm gonna be wrong. it gave me an inferior complex as well. nothing will ever be o.k.

Answer 10

that would make me feel very bad.