What do you say????!!!?

Question

Okay we've been trying to get pregnant for 10 months....well today is my birthday and the family came over...well we got married last friday...and everyonees like when are yall going to have a baby....point is we are trying we've been trying...and its really a frusterating thing...i just took a test this morning and it was negative so i was already not happy about it to begin with...My questiong is what do you say when you really dont want to get in a long discussion about it? cause we are trying??> thanks!!!

its sad to me because i love the holidays but im absolutly dreading them because...i know everyones going to corner us about the baby thang....and its like ugh!!! lol we're frusterated enough....

As soon as they got here and asked when there grandson wouuld be here my eyes all watered up.....i dont know i dont want to be rude but i dont want to cry when someone asks about it

its not him its me...i havent had a period because i had that stupid depo shot...last october and ever since then i cant start my period ive been on medicines and everything else

Answer 1

I had this same problem and still deal with it today. My husband and I ttc for 4 years with no luck, during this time I attended around 9 baby showers with everyone going Wendy where is your baby at, you have been married alot longer, when are you going to have a little one; my answer got to be when the good Lord is willing that is when I will have a baby. Of course when said with a little smile its all nice, even though my brain is screaming shut the f*ck up! lol. I know exactly how you feel; its very hard to talk about it. But the best thing to do is tell them that you have been trying. I told my mom after 8 months of trying and after that she had my back when people would ask. It was nice because she took some of the pressure off of me. Now, since I had a hysterectomy May '05, people like old classmates and such that aren't aware, will say how many kids do you have, or when are you going to have babies....instead of making them feel bad, I just say I don't know, one day. Because one day I do hope to adopt. Its a hard process to try and go it alone. Let your family know, they will be so supportive and trust me it will make it so much easier. Good luck to you and I hope you are blessed with a healthy baby !

Answer 2

Say you'll have your baby when then time is right, then nicely change the subject. I know people enjoy dwelling in other people's business, but you have a right to privacy. Also, try having intercourse once every other day, so that the sperm amount is abundant and you're most likely to have the best amount of sperm swimming towards the egg during ovulation. Most of all, don't try so hard because it can become very frustrating and stressful, which could delay pregnancy even more. Good luck!

Answer 3

I'd start by being practical. This is going to matter a lot to you while you're trying, so start with the basics. Get tested to make sure you're fertile, and have hubby tested to make sure he's got plenty of "swimmers." If that all checks out, just relax and keep trying (the fun part.) If one of you is infertile, start on the road to either adopting or fertility treatments or whatever. I say if you really want a child, there's no shame in doing what you need to do, and don't get the family in on it! Too many opinions there.

Answer 4

first of all, i would hope you can relax, stress does not help at all!! i know how frustrating it is to be ttc, i am also in that situation,and i have one family member who is always asking if i'm pregnant, and it makes you remember the negative test you just saw, and meanwhile she has 3 kids!! I would go to the dr. with your hubby and get feritility testing done first, and make sure everything is go there! When you find out it is, start to chart your ovulation, the dr. can help, or feritilityfriend.com, and before you know it, you'll be spreading the good news! as for now, just let them know, pretty soon, when god is ready to send us our little one, we'll let you know!

Answer 5

smile and tell them it's not in the picture yet.(and it is not telling a lie, because, it's true..a baby is not there in the picture in reality) That's all you need to say. If they persist..just continue smiling and change the topic. If they respect you they will realize you are not wanting to talk about iot.. it's not anyone;'s business when or if you and your husband are trying for kids!..You do not need to let them know you are trying for a baby, that just adds pressure and a lot of unwanted conversations and questions by some!

Answer 6

I'm sure your family isn't purposely trying to make you upset or cry. They're just excited for you. Let them know you would like nothing more than to find yourself expecting, and that you and your husband are "working on it". Then change the subject. Stay positive, and continue to find joy with each other!

Answer 7

Say you guys wanna wait awhile till having the baby; want to enjoy the honeymoon phase for sometime. Then when you do conceive (as u're secretly trying) it will be a pleasant surprise for all :D

Answer 8

i think it's not so much what you say as body language, & if you don't want to talk about it you might be able to convey that through expression or whatever...

i think for anyone who wants to talk to you about it saying it's alright, i'm fine, everything is okay, even sometimes "i don't want to talk about it!" it might not work unless you can be sufficiently against the idea through body language...

try shaking your head & not saying anything at all

or saying let's talk about it some other time it's ___'s day now.

Answer 9

How not to get into a discussion? Simple! Don't say anything! If someone brings it up say something like "and you thought I wanted to talk to you about this personal matter because...?" If they're tactless enought to persist, get rude.

Answer 10

no one else has to know that you guys have been trying. Just say that when you guys are ready then you will have kids. or god will decide when you are ready. or something like that.